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Landon_McFly
11-18-2005, 12:13 AM
Say you and your roommate both live approx. 200 miles from your parent's house. You plan on going home in a week, and the day before you leave he asks if he can come because he has to meet someone in the same city.

You are both middle class college students, but he doesn't have a car because his license is revoked.

You aren't going out of your way at all to take him where he needs to go, and you don't mind his company at all.

Keep in mind: you were already headed to the destination.

Hiding
11-18-2005, 12:16 AM
I voted no, but I'd make him buy me 12 later.

Landon_McFly
11-18-2005, 12:18 AM
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I voted no, but I'd make him buy me 12 later.

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12 what?

Hiding
11-18-2005, 12:21 AM
hot dog buns.....

(beer, I left out the a before 12)

eviljeff
11-18-2005, 12:28 AM
I wouldn't make him, but I'd ask unless he's in some kind of dire financial situation.

PoBoy321
11-18-2005, 12:30 AM
Gas, grass or ass, no one rides for free.

noggindoc
11-18-2005, 12:32 AM
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Gas, grass or ass, no one rides for free.

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that's pretty cool

handsome
11-18-2005, 12:34 AM
I wouldn't ask, but if he offered I'd have to accept /images/graemlins/smile.gif.

yellowjack
11-18-2005, 01:29 AM
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I wouldn't ask, but if he offered I'd have to accept /images/graemlins/smile.gif.

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Rev. Good Will
11-18-2005, 01:36 AM
I voted no, but I'd def have him pay me back via buying me a few beers.

benza13
11-18-2005, 02:10 AM
What everyone else says: if he offers, take it, if not make sure you at least get some beer out of the deal.

d10
11-18-2005, 02:13 AM
I would suggest he chips in for gas but if he's broke or just too cheap, I'd still take him and not really care.

jdl22
11-18-2005, 02:14 AM
I think he should only pay for the out of the way bit. If I understand properly that means nothing.

gamblore99
11-18-2005, 02:34 AM
i think you can just say tell him its win win. He gets a cheap ride, and you get a cheaper ride. Or if you have a give and take relationship have him buy you some beers later.

webmonarch
11-18-2005, 02:42 AM
I'm guessing you are the guy with the revoked license? /images/graemlins/wink.gif

TO answer the question, I think the appropriate thing is for the guy to offer to pay for gas. If he fails to do that, I think asking for gas money is pretty damned reasonable, unless this guy regularly does favors for you.

James Boston
11-18-2005, 02:53 AM
Don't ask, but if he offers I guess you can take it.

I would never ask someone to chip in for gas if I was already going to be driving somewhere.

maryfield48
11-18-2005, 03:20 AM
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Gas, grass or ass, no one rides for free.

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that's pretty cool

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You're 12 years old, aren't you?

OtisTheMarsupial
11-18-2005, 11:01 AM
I'd ask him to buy me dinner or something. And he'd better bring along his best music for us to listen to on the drive.

krimson
11-18-2005, 11:14 AM
I wouldn't ask but I'd certainly expect him to offer (and take the money). If he didn't offer, or buy beer, or pick up a bill at a restaurant, or any sort of "thank-you" gesture, I probably wouldn't drive him the next time.

Warik
11-18-2005, 11:26 AM
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You aren't going out of your way at all to take him where he needs to go

Keep in mind: you were already headed to the destination.

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What kind of ass would charge a friend for the ride?

If ANYTHING, charge him for the reduced mileage you'll get by carrying an extra ~170lb load in your passenger seat by having him buy you something from the McDonald's dollar menu when you get there.

Seriously... this is a friend, not some random dude asking to bum a ride. I have never in my life asked any friend for a single dime for gas money nor have I accepted it when they offered.

trying2learn
11-18-2005, 11:56 AM
The only reason 'no' is getting votes is because of the word, 'make' in your question. Of course you shouldn't make him or demand money for gas. Dropping a hint, accepting if he offers, or looking for a couple drinks on him are all easy yes answers to your question.

WDC
11-18-2005, 12:41 PM
I would't make him but I would be very upset if he did not offer or buy me dinner or something.

TiK
11-18-2005, 12:44 PM
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I wouldn't ask but I'd certainly expect him to offer (and take the money). If he didn't offer, or buy beer, or pick up a bill at a restaurant, or any sort of "thank-you" gesture, I probably wouldn't drive him the next time.

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PokerFink
11-18-2005, 12:49 PM
I would not make him pay for gas, but he should offer to pay for half anyway.

dstraff1
11-18-2005, 02:45 PM
It's pretty standard for the other kid to pay for part of the gas, and he probably expects to. So just ask.

Rick Diesel
11-18-2005, 02:54 PM
I voted no. I would not ask, or make, my friend pay for gas. However if I was the friend, and I was hitching the ride, I would offer to pay for ALL of the gas.

chesspain
11-18-2005, 03:26 PM
"Yes" : Ricky
"No" : Fred.

Kudos to the first person who understands this analogy. /images/graemlins/smirk.gif

ohnonotthat
11-18-2005, 04:20 PM
There are three ways you can be certain never to have to face this problem.

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1. Don't go to college - but if you must go to college . . .

2. Do not get a car - but if you must have a car . . .

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3. DO NOT RETURN HOME !

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If none of these work try getting a bumper sticker that was popular back in the late 60's and early 70's . . .

ASS, GRASS OR GAS - BUT NO FREE RIDES.

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OK - seriously ?

If your friend has any class he will offer to pay for at least half; the theory that the "right side of the car must go everywhere the left side goes" does have some merit.

- And as soon as the major airlines adopt this approach I will do likewise.