Sex Issues

Sexually inexperienced. Im 19, this is the first girl i've had sex with. She is really hot, we've been dating for like 4 months, and the sex is great sometimes, but other times i just lose my boner. It feels great, but it takes me like 20X longer to orgasm w/ sex than by say masturbation. Sometimes it takes too long, and I lose my erection. Sometimes I dont, and we go for an hour or so, break, and do it again later that day.


Any suggestions? Serious please.

[phixxx]

You may be gay. You lose your boner with a really hot chick while you're [censored] her? What is wrong with you?

[gorie]

masturbate less ? maybe that will help.

Must... suppress... urge...

Okay, trying to be helpful.

Do you use condoms?
Are you circumcized?
When she gives you head, is this an issue (ie, can she slurp on your dong for an hour and have you go, "eh"?)?

Uh...

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Sometimes it takes too long, and I lose my erection. Sometimes I dont, and we go for an hour or so, break, and do it again later that day.

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So, you [censored] for an hour without nuttin', and then you just stop? And sometimes you [censored] for 30 minutes and your dong just says "forget this broad..." and curls up and goes to sleep?

How DO you get your rocks off with this chick?

And, how often DO you choke it?

No condoms
Not Circumcized
With head, i dont orgasm, but ill keep the boner.

No- sometimes the sex is great, and I cum, and we might do It 2-3 times in a day, with me orgasming every time.

Sometimes It just curls up and I have to pull out.

[joshman1204]

you do any drugs?

[diebitter]

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masturbate less ? maybe that will help.

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[SmileyEH]

This is completely random and is just an idea, but you could try lifting weights or doing serious excercises. This would up your testosterone, and might help. Not that I have any medical education, but it makes sense to me that this would increase your sex drive - which really seems to be the problem here.

-SmileyEH

[Cubswin]

performance anxiety?

[Pyromaniac]

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masturbate less

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good advice. OP, not enough information here (or too much, maybe, lol). Could be lots of things causing a bit of limpdick, and that's normal.

Alcohol?
Drugs/meds of any sort?
Not enough sleep?
Not enough exercise/out-of-shape?
Too much masturbation/sex?
Dehydrated?

If your body is out of whack, either in general or just on a particular day, that'll happen.

That's the physical part. The mental part is if/when you start worrying about it...which just makes it worse.

So...don't worry about it. Stay in physical shape and pay attention to things like the list above when this does happen.

Pyro

(FWIW, I think most women would prefer a man with some staying power over a minuteman...)

Meh, if for some reason you can get off to porn more than actual sex, then you need to think of whatever porn you like while you do her. That and jack off less.

[InchoateHand]

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(FWIW, I think most women would prefer a man with some staying power over a minuteman...)

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Really? FWIW I thought most women preferred short, painful, unsatisfying sex...

[jgorham]

Go see a doctor. Seriously. This could be a manifestation of a larger issue (not the most likely thing, but still a possibility).

19 is to young, I didnt start having similar issuses untill I was 21 and drunk. Try and get some Viagra, just bite of a corner and you will be good to go for a few hours and your girl will appreciate it.

[gorie]

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Meh, if for some reason you can get off to porn more than actual sex, then you need to think of whatever porn you like while you do her. That and jack off less.

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i was thinking that too, maybe you guys just need to find something different to do during sex that will get you going.

does it have any effect if you make her come first before sticking it in ?

[handsome]

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performance anxiety?

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This is most likely the problem.

[InchoateHand]

boredom? thinking about something else?

This is the most likely problem.

[Phoenix1010]

These threads make it easy to see who hasn't actually had sex yet.

I had the same problem, with almost the same exact situation. I lost my virginity before the first time I masturbated so that's not definitely the problem (although it may be contribtuing). I'm not circumsized either and with some of the bigger condoms sometimes I can barely feel it.

It's all mental. If you start thinking about how long it's taking, it will take too long. If you start worrying about losing your boner, you will lose your boner. Do not think, just do. Focus on the rhythm, the action, and on her reactions. The act itself is enough to get you off if you just let it.

If all else fails and you're in a hurry, there's no shame in just focusing on an image or thought that turns you on (think of it like masturbating with her vagina) and getting the job done.

[gorie]

also, does this still happen when she is on top ? because if it does that would rule out the whole tired/lack of stamina explanation. and if it doesn't you could have her go on top if you feel yourself starting to lose it, that way you can just let her do most of the work for you.

[UCF THAYER]

How did you used to masturbate? Was it really rough?
I heard on loveline, that guys who are only used to jerking it, and those that do so viciously, often have trouble having sex with girls because theyre not used to the softness of the Vagina. Have her jerk you off some while she's giving you head, see if that works.

No, but it hurts a little when she is on top, due to the angle of my penis when she leans forward. If she is facing my feet, it does not happen.

Some "normal" positions also hurt, like me on top w/ her legs spread. If i hold my torso up it feels ok, but if i lay on top of her the angle me penis is at causes pain. A pillow under her seems to help that though.

[DcifrThs]

stop smoking weed before having sex.

Barron

[slickpoppa]

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also, does this still happen when she is on top ?

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I could be wrong, but it seems like in every thread about sex you talk about the girl being on top. You really like going cowboy dont you?

[imported_anacardo]

Cowgirl.

Please, sir. /images/graemlins/smirk.gif

[diebitter]

anyone got any links to these names for positions (with explanation of the position)? I still don't know what a piledriver actually is...

[Bukem_]

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performance anxiety?

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This is most likely the problem.

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This is 100% the problem. You need to bang her more and not stress over it so much.

[gorie]

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also, does this still happen when she is on top ?

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I could be wrong, but it seems like in every thread about sex you talk about the girl being on top. You really like going cowboy dont you?

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hm, the only time i remember talking about going on top was in the thread about losing virginity. so i think you're crazy. anyway, it's good for when the guy doesn't have the energy, obviously.

[slickpoppa]

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also, does this still happen when she is on top ?

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I could be wrong, but it seems like in every thread about sex you talk about the girl being on top. You really like going cowboy dont you?

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hm, the only time i remember talking about going on top was in the thread about losing virginity. so i think you're crazy. anyway, it's good for when the guy doesn't have the energy, obviously.

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Selective memory I guess /images/graemlins/wink.gif

[pokerdirty]

awesome, i can't believe i'm the first...

SIIHP!!!

[Michael Davis]

Despite the responses, this isn't really that uncommon, especially if you have problems finishing (which apparently you do sometimes, but not others). Also, you're having sex a lot, and that can do it: try jerking off multiple times in rapid succession.

Performance anxiety and psychological issues could be the culprit, or it could just be that you're worn out. Anyways, be thankful that you orgasm sometimes and aren't cursed with retarded ejaculation. If you really want help, do a google search on this subject.

-Michael

[WackityWhiz]

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anyone got any links to these names for positions (with explanation of the position)? I still don't know what a piledriver actually is...

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giggity (http://forumserver.twoplustwo.com/showflat.php?Cat=0&Board=exchange&Number=3382088&S earchpage=1&Main=3382088&Words=Sexual+Positions+Wa ckityWhiz&topic=&Search=true#Post3382088)

[diebitter]

no explanations.

You're fired!

[WackityWhiz]

I always thought you were more observant than that... i'm kinda disappointed

[diebitter]

Err, sit down.

How about a raise?

[Lady Dont Tekno]

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No, but it hurts a little when she is on top, due to the angle of my penis when she leans forward. If she is facing my feet, it does not happen.

Some "normal" positions also hurt, like me on top w/ her legs spread. If i hold my torso up it feels ok, but if i lay on top of her the angle me penis is at causes pain. A pillow under her seems to help that though.

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Gay.

LDT

[zephed]

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Drugs/meds of any sort?

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Answer this question, OP.

She's going to be pissed when you "fix" this problem and you start blowing your load in 10 minutes.

"So we were frequently having this great long sex, and then one week, he just starts blowing it. I mean, its like he just turned 14 and he is constantly about 4 minutes away from exploding everywhere. I think I'm going to have to break up with him"

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Sexually inexperienced. Im 19, this is the first girl i've had sex with. She is really hot, we've been dating for like 4 months, and the sex is great sometimes, but other times i just lose my boner. It feels great, but it takes me like 20X longer to orgasm w/ sex than by say masturbation. Sometimes it takes too long, and I lose my erection. Sometimes I dont, and we go for an hour or so, break, and do it again later that day.


Any suggestions? Serious please.

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Jesus man! I wish I was in your shoes.

[tonypaladino]

this happened to me when I first started giving the ladies the pleasure of a hot tony sausage. quit masterbating, or masterbuate less frequently, and you won't have a problem.

[InchoateHand]

Did anyone else wonder about the abnormal temperature of the previous poster's unit, and why he referred to it as a "hot tiny sausage?" I did, fleetingly.

[Yeti]

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No, but it hurts a little when she is on top, due to the angle of my penis when she leans forward. If she is facing my feet, it does not happen.

Some "normal" positions also hurt, like me on top w/ her legs spread. If i hold my torso up it feels ok, but if i lay on top of her the angle me penis is at causes pain. A pillow under her seems to help that though.

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Does your penis jot out at 90 degrees or something?

The first thing I thought was "who the [censored] is tony"