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TheWorstPlayer
10-13-2005, 03:35 PM
OK, my girlfriend's birthday is coming up soon and I don't know what to get. I have a few ideas, but I'm not sure if she would like any of them. We are both 25. We have been dating for a few years and are quite serious. I have no problem spending a couple hundred bucks on this. So here are my 2 questions:

1. Should I mention an idea or a few ideas to her to see what she wants, or does that show that I don't know what she wants and is therefore worse than just getting something that she may or may not like?

2. If I should just get her something, any good suggestions for what it should be? She has an old iPod so I was considering an iPod nano or a new iPod. And she is a girl, so obviously she likes jewelry and clothing and spas and stuff but I'm not sure exactly how to find something nice in that arena. She lives in Philadelphia if any gift suggestions are location specific.

Thanks OOT I know you can do it!
pokerdirty
10-13-2005, 03:36 PM
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mason55
10-13-2005, 03:37 PM
I thought you lived in Australia...
TheWorstPlayer
10-13-2005, 04:01 PM
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You obviously know my girlfriend quite well. But the time is not right. And I said a couple hundred, not several thousand. Thanks for the idea, though.
TheWorstPlayer
10-13-2005, 04:01 PM
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I thought you lived in Australia...

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I did. Now I live back in New York.
dcasper70
10-13-2005, 04:03 PM
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imported_CaseClosed326
10-13-2005, 04:06 PM
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pokerdirty
10-13-2005, 04:09 PM
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winner.
TheWorstPlayer
10-13-2005, 04:09 PM
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She goes to the gym several times per week so has no need of that. Good try, though.
TheWorstPlayer
10-13-2005, 04:10 PM
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The first one was closer. Try again. And answer question 1, goddamnit.
SackUp
10-13-2005, 04:12 PM
Yes hint around and find out what she wants/needs. I'm sure she has mentioned something that is eithe broke or that would just be so nice to have. Just think hard and try to actually pay attention to what she says when she talks. It is much better to get something that she really wants then just a gift. How is this so difficult??
TheWorstPlayer
10-13-2005, 04:14 PM
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try to actually pay attention to what she says when she talks.

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How is this so difficult??

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Isn't listening to women talk always difficult?
pokerdirty
10-13-2005, 04:16 PM
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Yes hint around and find out what she wants/needs. I'm sure she has mentioned something that is eithe broke or that would just be so nice to have. Just think hard and try to actually pay attention to what she says when she talks. It is much better to get something that she really wants then just a gift. How is this so difficult??

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this is weak. i never asked my ex what she wanted for her bday/xmas. if you want to do that forced exchange, then go ahead. if you really love this broad, do something on the fly. catch her by surprise.


that being said. get her the vacuum.
Shajen
10-13-2005, 04:16 PM
1) just ask her if you really have no idea. She more than likely has already told you what she wants.

2) does she like her old Ipod? Is it good enough for what she does with it? Does she need more space, or what? The old standby: 1) flowers, dinner, drinks, hotel, day spa trip. Number two depends on number 1. As I said, if she is a typical woman, she's already hinted at/told you. Just listen.
swede123
10-13-2005, 04:17 PM
When I was dating my wife I got her a pretty nice Cashmere sweater for Christmas one year. It was kind of expensive (at least for my spending habits) at about $150, but she really thought it was a neat gift and she actually wears it quite frequently when the weather gets colder. Go to your local department store, talk to the sales people and pick something in a color she likes.

Swede
imported_CaseClosed326
10-13-2005, 04:23 PM
Get her some hoagies sent to her house.

Seriously though, set it up so on her day off she gets a total spa treatment. An all day type of thing. Might be a little expensive, then take her out to dinner somewhere really nice. Then give a nice peice of jewelry. Then BAM give her the vacuum.
dcasper70
10-13-2005, 04:44 PM
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Just the wrapping. The rest is for you.
beta1607
10-13-2005, 04:48 PM
1. Don't ask her, that is lame and it could 'bother' her that you don't know. She will make it obvious if there is something she really wants.

2. I recommend a weekend trip with her, somewhere quiet. What about taking her to upstate NY or NH for the fall changing of the leaves and staying at a nice B&B. When you get home, give her the vaccum.
bobman0330
10-13-2005, 04:49 PM
Chicks dig music boxes.
TheWorstPlayer
10-13-2005, 05:00 PM
These are good ideas but we travel a lot together already. We have spent a week in Australia and a week in New Zealand, a weekend on the beach in Florida, and are planning a week trip to the carribean for Xmas/NY and also a week or two in Europe in the Spring. So a trip is not as special for us as it may be for other couples. And it wont fit with out schedules at all to go away for a weekend either.
TheWorstPlayer
10-13-2005, 05:01 PM
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Just the wrapping. The rest is for you.

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This is a very good call. Linky to store?
Pinga
10-13-2005, 05:32 PM
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It's her birthday not yours!

I found these at costumesinc (http://www.costumesinc.com/)
TheWorstPlayer
10-13-2005, 05:38 PM
Yo, she LIKES dressing like a slutty French maid. I promise!
pokerdirty
10-13-2005, 05:39 PM
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Yo, she LIKES dressing like a slutty French maid. I promise!

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you can't say things like this without posting pics or [censored] will ban you.
junkmail3
10-13-2005, 05:40 PM
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MEbenhoe
10-13-2005, 05:49 PM
girls like gifts that you've put some thought into, and that show you're paying attention. avoid the genericness of an ipod or something like that. if you've been dating her a few years, you should know her well enough by now to know her style, what she likes, what you can get her that will blow her away. leaving it up to oot isn't a good idea, because they don't know your gf so all you're going to end up with is something impersonal.
TheWorstPlayer
10-13-2005, 06:00 PM
Although this is obviously the correct answer, it is also completely useless to me. You must be a management consultant.
daveymck
10-13-2005, 06:12 PM
Rampant Rabbit.
TheWorstPlayer
10-13-2005, 06:13 PM
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Rampant Rabbit.

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daveymck
10-13-2005, 06:18 PM
NSFW (http://www.sextoysuk.uk.com/afil.asp?dealer=486)

Best selling and supposedley very good, my young lady likes hers.
TheWorstPlayer
10-13-2005, 06:35 PM
I saw an HBO special about a guy who designs a lot of these. It was a pretty sweet show where they took a bunch of couples to their lab to test the stuff out and to provide feedback. But my girl is in no way into this, unfortunately. Good call, though, and I wish this were the answer.
Wintermute
10-13-2005, 08:35 PM
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We have been dating for a few years and are quite serious. I have no problem spending a couple hundred bucks on this.

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Putting these two sentences next to each other is hilarious.

As for an idea for a gift, I would try not to ask her. In my experience, the element of surprise is key. Also, you sort of have to take into account the type of crap you got her for previous occasions; I try to never downgrade (at least, not dramatically) from one present to the next. The nano sounds like a bad idea to me (replacement = unoriginal), a weekend vacation sounds like a good one. From Philly it could be as easy as hitting up Manhattan for a weekend, a couple shows and a stay at a nice hotel. Jewelry is another option, but you can't use it too often. I think if you posted a couple photos, I could be of more use.
ptmusic
10-13-2005, 08:49 PM
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leaving it up to oot isn't a good idea, because they don't know your gf

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Says you.

-ptmusic
TheWorstPlayer
10-14-2005, 12:29 AM
Hey didn't realise you were an OOTiot. Glad to see that you are. I agree with you in principle on all points. I don't want to ask her because I know that will piss her off. Previously I have just gotten her stuff like CDs and small presents, nothing too big. But I think this year I should try to get her something a little bit bigger. And a weekend in Manhattan would be a nice idea but I live in Manhattan and she comes here all the time for the weekend. But we COULD do a show or something. That actually sounds like a pretty good idea. I think I am going to go with a fancy dinner, a broadway show, and then a little present or something to give her over dinner.

Thanks OOT!