Got dumped while bangin' my girlfriend...

[judgesmails]

... 9 years ago. I was 26 at the time and she was 22. We had dated for about 1.5 years.

When we started dating I just got out of a 2+ yr relationship and was not looking for anything serious. Unfortunately for me, she turned out to be the most intersting, intelligent and beautiful woman I have met to this day. But since I was self-centered and stupid - I treated her like garbage and she dumped me - as she should have.

Her value was so high, I groveled and begged her to take me back - something I had never done previously or since to "win" a woman back. She took short-term pity on me and agreed to give it another try.

A couple weeks after her taking me back we went out for dinner and a show. We ended up at her house and consumated our evening. Our sex had always been great, as far as I could tell, and this night it seemed just as good as ever.

Of course I had morning wood the next day and turned her over for another ride in the a.m. She obliged - but only for a short while. In the middle of the action (her on top) she stopped and informed me that she was "sorry, but I have no feelings for you HONEY and can't go on."

Well I was a bit shocked, but knew at once that she did not have a bad bone in her body (anymore) and she was simply relating her true feelings to me. Hard as it was, and "it" was, I knew it was over and that I had to leave. I pushed her off my manhood, put on my clothes, and left without another word. I heard her crying as I walked out of her bedroom. I cried a bit as I walked to my truck. This was the last face-to-face contact I had with her, and we never spoke again - until yesterday.

I took a golf, drinking, and football trip back to the old stomping grounds of Wisconsin this past week or so. I finished the trip with a round of golf at Whistling Straights north of Milwaukee yesterday. After the round I hustled to Mitchell Field to catch my flight back home to Vegas.

While drinking a beer and waiting for my plane, I noticed a woman who looked like my old girl, but thought it would be impossible that it would be her. Some old friends told me she married and lived in Green Bay or someplace like that. So I dismissed it as a hopefull delusion.

I was not sure why I hoped it was her though. This hope frightened me in a way. As my departure time approached, I made way to the gate and sat down and started playing online p#@e%.

A couple minutes into my session I came up for air only to make direct eye contact with HER. Sure as sh@t, it was HER. As shocked, surprised, and happy as I was to confirm that it was HER, I kept as cool as best I could and calmly lifted my left hand slightly from my lapper to give a way-to-casual wave hello to someone I had been terribly close to at one time and had not seen in almost ten years.

She was seated next to a guy that was way better looking than I have ever been or could ever hope to be. She obviously had traded up. She smiled broadly and walked over to greet me.

I can't describe the thrill it was to see her and talk to her again. Our first words were surprisingly intimate and familiar. She asked me simple questions like what I was doing these days and I responded with simplistic and half-joking answers like "waiting for a plane and I just finished golfing." For some reason she finds/found this crap very funny. We went on like this for some time, laughing and avoiding reality.

When the conversation turned real, things got tense and we both remembered the awkward and dissapointing terms of when we last parted ways. From this point on it was impossible to make any conversation. Besides, her husband was now shooting both of us dirty looks. He was not comfortable with our comaradrie. She picked up on all of this quickly and offered me a warm hug good-bye. I gladly accepted and suggested it would be great to run into her in an airport ten years from now.

Of course she, her husband, and mother-in-law were among the 15 other people on my flight from Milwaukee to Vegas. From the little I could not help but overhear, they were not very happy to learn of my relationship with her and did not approve of our little reunion - however innocent it was. Apparently she had previously told her husband our relationship was serious at one point and he was not comfortable with her seeing me again. The fact I overheard this conversation and their group's subsequent reaction made baggage claim a nightmare.

Anyway, I have since wondered why I had such a strong reaction to this encoutner. Toward the end of the conversation with her my voice was shaking and I could not think straight or make any sense at all. This is very unlike me. I am always very calm and rarely respond negatively to common pressure situations. I don't think I have any real feelings for her - it has been almost ten years, how could I? I thought I moved on rather quickly and never thougth much about her after the fact other than the times I discuss and compare old girfriends with my buddies.

She seemed very nervous as well. She was stumbling on words and looking for "the right thing" to say and for moments to be clever.

Very strange and interesting encounter. I am glad for it.

[zephed]

Holy christ what a way to break up.

[naphinfitos]

WOW I cried a little.

[judgesmails]

I hope history does not repeat itself in this case.

On another note, I am sorry for the poor attention to grammar and spelling. It is late, I am tired and have been drinking.

I will probabley regret revealing this episode.

[ChipWrecked]

I think you can take some small comfort in the fact that her husband and his mother are insecure, uptight dicks.

[judgesmails]

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I think you can take some small comfort in the fact that her husband and his mother are insecure, uptight dicks.

[/ QUOTE ]

Maybe they are... maybe not.

Unfortunately for all of us (me), other's weaknesses are their own problems - not necessarily our strengths.

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I think you can take some small comfort in the fact that her husband and his mother are insecure, uptight dicks.

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[stigmata]

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I think you can take some small comfort in the fact that her husband and his mother are insecure, uptight dicks.

[/ QUOTE ]


What a wanker he is.... For christ sake....

I'm now great friends with a couple of my partners ex's. Which kind of makes sense, because we obviously both have similar choice in friends.

Also, there really is no point in getting jealous about things that are done and dusted. If your going to get paranoid about anything, then surely that something has to be in the future and not the past.

[ChipWrecked]

[ QUOTE ]

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I think you can take some small comfort in the fact that her husband and his mother are insecure, uptight dicks.

[/ QUOTE ]

Maybe they are... maybe not.

Unfortunately for all of us (me), other's weaknesses are their own problems - not necessarily our strengths.

[/ QUOTE ]

This is a noble stance and I applaud you for it. However, I will reassert that either the above is true, or, she still has strong feelings for you of which he is aware... and he's not as convinced of her 'trade up' as you are.

[judgesmails]

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she still has strong feelings for you of which he is aware... and he's not as convinced of her 'trade up' as you are.

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Very nice of you to suggest and I suppose it could be true, but I know better. Nontheless, I suppose that would be a nice thing to believe. If I could convince myself to of it, it would not really matter if it were true or not.

Kinda like Sklansky's religion posts?

I could delude myslef to believing something comforting that could help me smile and be nice. But like most of the religous "faithfull", deep down I know the reality. I am much healthier acknowledging it and dealing with it rather than denying it and promoting false hopes within myself.

How did I get here? Sorry, way off-topic.

[ChipWrecked]

Meh. His loss. As Stig said, he missed a valuable opportunity to gain insight into his spouse by not buying you a drink and getting to know you a little bit.

Not to mention that, while maybe he wouldn't want to spend his Vegas time hanging with his wife's ex, there might have been perks there, like maybe you could have hooked them up with your buddy the casino host or something.

But then I'm an opportunistic whore and I look to shoot that kind of angle all the time /images/graemlins/grin.gif

[siccjay]

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.she turned out to be the most intersting, intelligent and beautiful woman I have met to this day.

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I don't think I have any real feelings for her - it has been almost ten years, how could I?

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[TheMetetron]

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.she turned out to be the most intersting, intelligent and beautiful woman I have met to this day.

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I don't think I have any real feelings for her - it has been almost ten years, how could I?

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I agree. He is still stuck on this girl whether he wants to admit it or not.

[judgesmails]

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I don't think I have any real feelings for her - it has been almost ten years, how could I?




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When I say "real" feelings, I mean that I recognize the relationship is long since over and I harbor no illusions of a future with her. Of course I regret not treating her better and giving myself a better chance at the time. But I have many regrets, though most minor in comparison.

[samjjones]

She was the "one that got away". Its understandable that you look back fondly on your relationship with her, and you regret the way you treated her back then. Hindsight is a bitch. Just take solace in the fact that she is happy now and you are both in a better place with your lives. Just was not meant to be.

[siccjay]

For real though, I know how you feel.

There was a chick from High School who I was way too into. I seen her about 3 years after school and it was around the same as your airport conversation. She was married, with a kid, husband out in the car. He eventually honked lmao. This was probably 5 years ago now and I still don't know if I wanna see her again, might not be good for me hahaha

[jakethebake]

I recently started talking to an old girlfriend more. She called me up one night out of the blue and it's been really cool. We tell each other everything, which is weird because communication was our big problem back then. That was over 15 years ago though. I have no romantic feelings at all for her, but it's great to get a woman's perspecitve on things. And I'd echo judge's comments. She's one of the most beautiful, intelligent, interesting women I've ever met but that doesn't mean I'm interested in her romantically.

[diebitter]

I'd absolutely hate to meet any of my old girlfriends.

Not in case it reawakens something, I just don't want to be reminded of some of the rubbish I used to knock about with back then.

[siccjay]

[ QUOTE ]
Just was not meant to be.

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The thing is, it will always feel like it was meant to be because now that you are all grown up and realize how much of a jackass you were. (not anyone in particular)

Not that its anything to stress over its just the little moments like these that remind you.

[mslif]

I think we can all agree that we have that one person in our past that we will always regret not treating better or not trying hard enough to make it work.
As we move on and start new relationships, we realize how good that person was to us and we start to beat oursleves up for being so retarded.
I think you reaction was normal and it's great you were able to see her again. I am sure it got your blood pumping /images/graemlins/grin.gif.
She will always be a very special person to you and being emotional about it is normal human behavior. /images/graemlins/heart.gif

[samjjones]

[ QUOTE ]
I recently started talking to an old girlfriend more. She called me up one night out of the blue and it's been really cool. We tell each other everything, which is weird because communication was our big problem back then. That was over 15 years ago though. I have no romantic feelings at all for her, but it's great to get a woman's perspecitve on things. And I'd echo judge's comments. She's one of the most beautiful, intelligent, interesting women I've ever met but that doesn't mean I'm interested in her romantically.

[/ QUOTE ]
This has "imminent disaster" written all over it. Do you see why?

[jakethebake]

[ QUOTE ]
[ QUOTE ]
I recently started talking to an old girlfriend more. She called me up one night out of the blue and it's been really cool. We tell each other everything, which is weird because communication was our big problem back then. That was over 15 years ago though. I have no romantic feelings at all for her, but it's great to get a woman's perspecitve on things. And I'd echo judge's comments. She's one of the most beautiful, intelligent, interesting women I've ever met but that doesn't mean I'm interested in her romantically.

[/ QUOTE ]
This has "imminent disaster" written all over it. Do you see why?

[/ QUOTE ]

No. Will you let others elaborate?

[siccjay]

I see why brother.

[LALDAAS]

I had left one of my girl friends in a similiar manor. I had actually called it off and showed her the door.

Later on that night forgetting she had a key to the apt.

She let her self in striped down to her hot as hell little 110lb 38b cup b-suit and climbed on top of my half staffed mule.

I thought to my self OK i can do this. As she is riding my she asks me "Do your really want to leave this"

I paused for a second as I busted off a salty little rocket.

Yes, as I rolled her ass right back out the front door after taking her key.
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[jakethebake]

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I see why brother.

[/ QUOTE ]

There's nothing disaestrous about it. There's 0% romantic attraction and I told the wife I was talking to her.

[utmt40]

[ QUOTE ]
I had left one of my girl friends in a similiar manor. I had actually called it off and showed her the door.

Later on that night forgetting she had a key to the apt.

She let her self in striped down to her hot as hell little 110lb 38b cup b-suit and climbed on top of my half staffed mule.

I thought to my self OK i can do this. As she is riding my she asks me "Do your really want to leave this"

I paused for a second as I busted off a salty little rocket.

Yes, as I rolled her ass right back out the front door after taking her key.
/images/graemlins/grin.gif

[/ QUOTE ]

terrible

[judgesmails]

Not to hijack my own thread here but... you are married? And talking to an old girlfriend about a "woman's perspective"? And you don't see potential trouble?

Newsflash, your old girlfriend wants to screw you yesterday and will do anything she can to undermine your marriage. If you want to stay married you will never listen to this broad about anything other than what the weather is suppoosed to be. Even then, heed caution friend.

[diebitter]

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I see why brother.

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There's nothing disaestrous about it. There's 0% romantic attraction and I told the wife I was talking to her.

[/ QUOTE ]

Did you tell your wife that she's one of the most beautiful, intelligent, interesting women you've ever met?

[siccjay]

Your wife still doesn't like it, I'm sure.

[siccjay]

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I see why brother.

[/ QUOTE ]

There's nothing disaestrous about it. There's 0% romantic attraction and I told the wife I was talking to her.

[/ QUOTE ]

Did you tell your wife that she's one of the most beautiful, intelligent, interesting women you've ever met?

[/ QUOTE ]

lmao even better

[jakethebake]

[ QUOTE ]
Newsflash, your old girlfriend wants to screw you yesterday and will do anything she can to undermine your marriage. If you want to stay married you will never listen to this broad about anything other than what the weather is suppoosed to be. Even then, heed caution friend.

[/ QUOTE ]

No she doesn't. She lives 3,000 miles away, has a brand new boyfriend she's all aquiver over and I'm not her type at all.

[jakethebake]

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Your wife still doesn't like it, I'm sure.

[/ QUOTE ]

Probably. But not enough to worry about it.

[jakethebake]

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Did you tell your wife that she's one of the most beautiful, intelligent, interesting women you've ever met?

[/ QUOTE ]

My wife is completely aware of our past and current state of affairs...or lack thereof.

[Soul Daddy]

Jake, is your wife the coolest chick in the world? Or is it some sort of arranged marriage where you two don't really even know each other?

[jakethebake]

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Jake, is your wife the coolest chick in the world? Or is it some sort of arranged marriage where you two don't really even know each other?

[/ QUOTE ]

She's far from the coolest chick in the world about many things. But like i said the girl is 3k miles away and I told her about it. If I didn't tell her, then she's be pissed.

[Soul Daddy]

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If I didn't tell her, then she's be pissed.

[/ QUOTE ]
You're looking at it all wrong. If you didn't tell her, she wouldn't know. /images/graemlins/tongue.gif

[diebitter]

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Did you tell your wife that she's one of the most beautiful, intelligent, interesting women you've ever met?

[/ QUOTE ]

My wife is completely aware of our past and current state of affairs...or lack thereof.

[/ QUOTE ]

So that'd be a 'no' then /images/graemlins/smile.gif

[judgesmails]

No woman calls you up out of the blue after 15 years because she is happy with her new boyfriend and is just wondering how you are and wants to be friends now.

Chicks are not wired that way.

Of course there is a small chance I am wrong - I lost 400 BB last week, so my reads may not be on.

[mslif]

[ QUOTE ]
No woman calls you up out of the blue after 15 years because she is happy with her new boyfriend and is just wondering how you are and wants to be friends now.

Chicks are not wired that way.


[/ QUOTE ]

I concur

[jakethebake]

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No woman calls you up out of the blue after 15 years because she is happy with her new boyfriend and is just wondering how you are and wants to be friends now.

Chicks are not wired that way.


[/ QUOTE ]

I concur

[/ QUOTE ]

You're wrong.

[Vish]

It's not often I can read a post that long here and not once get bored. Nice post.

[mslif]

[ QUOTE ]
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No woman calls you up out of the blue after 15 years because she is happy with her new boyfriend and is just wondering how you are and wants to be friends now.

Chicks are not wired that way.


[/ QUOTE ]

I concur

[/ QUOTE ]

You're wrong.

[/ QUOTE ]

No I am not

[jakethebake]

[ QUOTE ]
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No woman calls you up out of the blue after 15 years because she is happy with her new boyfriend and is just wondering how you are and wants to be friends now.

Chicks are not wired that way.


[/ QUOTE ]

I concur

[/ QUOTE ]

You're wrong.

[/ QUOTE ]

No I am not

[/ QUOTE ]

Are so. Are so.

[mslif]

[ QUOTE ]
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No woman calls you up out of the blue after 15 years because she is happy with her new boyfriend and is just wondering how you are and wants to be friends now.

Chicks are not wired that way.


[/ QUOTE ]

I concur

[/ QUOTE ]

You're wrong.

[/ QUOTE ]

No I am not

[/ QUOTE ]

Are so. Are so.

[/ QUOTE ]

Jake, I was not talking about your particular situation but women in general. I am a woman, you are not, I am therefore more qualified to answer the question.

[tpir90036]

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From the little I could not help but overhear, they were not very happy to learn of my relationship with her and did not approve of our little reunion - however innocent it was. Apparently she had previously told her husband our relationship was serious at one point and he was not comfortable with her seeing me again.

[/ QUOTE ]
Huh? This guys entire family was not happy about it? What a bunch of tool factories. None of them have exs? That's really lame. I used to date a girl who went to high school in the area where I live and we ran into old flames of hers all the time. I thought it was hilarious and I was always cool with the dudes and vice versa.

Anyway, you should have got her business card or something. I would set the over/under of "e-mails required to break up the marriage" at 3.

[diebitter]

[ QUOTE ]
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No woman calls you up out of the blue after 15 years because she is happy with her new boyfriend and is just wondering how you are and wants to be friends now.

Chicks are not wired that way.


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I concur

[/ QUOTE ]

You're wrong.

[/ QUOTE ]

No I am not

[/ QUOTE ]

Are so. Are so.

[/ QUOTE ]

Leave it. Jake's with De Crocodiles.

[jakethebake]

[ QUOTE ]
Jake, I was not talking about your particular situation but women in general. I am a woman, you are not, I am therefore more qualified to answer the question.

[/ QUOTE ]

But this woman did. That was my only point. In this instance.

[judgesmails]

I believe that you believe what you say... is true.

I don't believe her and what she is representing to you.

May I gladly be proven wrong by future events.

[ChipWrecked]

[ QUOTE ]
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No woman calls you up out of the blue after 15 years because she is happy with her new boyfriend and is just wondering how you are and wants to be friends now.

Chicks are not wired that way.


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I concur

[/ QUOTE ]

You're wrong.

[/ QUOTE ]

No I am not

[/ QUOTE ]

Are so. Are so.

[/ QUOTE ]

I call BS on this. This dovetails with the moaning you were doing the other day about 'mixed signals' and so on, which you denied had anything to do with a woman other than your wife. Even if it's not this person, you need to stop doing this crap, yo. It is far from cool.

[jakethebake]

[ QUOTE ]
I call BS on this. This dovetails with the moaning you were doing the other day about 'mixed signals' and so on, which you denied had anything to do with a woman other than your wife. Even if it's not this person, you need to stop doing this crap, yo. It is far from cool.

[/ QUOTE ]

That doesn't need to be brought up again. This person has nothing to do with anything. I just used this girl as an example relating to the op. Y'all turned it inot a hijack and jumped all over it. I am 100% certain there is nothing in either of our feelings that is remotely romantic. If we were both naked in front of each other now, nothing would happen. I don't get why y'all are so all over this. /images/graemlins/mad.gif

[kbfc]

I generally hate these sort of 'me too' posts, but I have to say:

awesome post. maybe the best thing I've ever read on this forum.

[IndieMatty]

[ QUOTE ]
I think we can all agree that we have that one person in our past that we will always regret not treating better or not trying hard enough to make it work.
As we move on and start new relationships, we realize how good that person was to us and we start to beat oursleves up for being so retarded.
I think you reaction was normal and it's great you were able to see her again. I am sure it got your blood pumping /images/graemlins/grin.gif.
She will always be a very special person to you and being emotional about it is normal human behavior. /images/graemlins/heart.gif

[/ QUOTE ]

Smart again.

Let your prize begin.

[mslif]

[ QUOTE ]
[ QUOTE ]
I think we can all agree that we have that one person in our past that we will always regret not treating better or not trying hard enough to make it work.
As we move on and start new relationships, we realize how good that person was to us and we start to beat oursleves up for being so retarded.
I think you reaction was normal and it's great you were able to see her again. I am sure it got your blood pumping /images/graemlins/grin.gif.
She will always be a very special person to you and being emotional about it is normal human behavior. /images/graemlins/heart.gif

[/ QUOTE ]

Smart again.

Let your prize begin.

[/ QUOTE ]

So if I answer to your stalkish replies, do you have to reply to them as well? This could be a lot of work.

[judgesmails]

[ QUOTE ]
awesome post. maybe the best thing I've ever read on this forum.

[/ QUOTE ]

Kind words. I am flattered.

I immediately regretted posting thoughts so personal, but judging from the responses, most (all?) of us have been in similar situations and felt the same awkward exhilerance.

To build upon the original post a bit (and to be a bit self-indulgent)... Reflecting on my time with HER, I can only remember good times now. One thing that has made me smile repeatedly the past two days is her revelation to me that she plays golf twice a week now.

She used to make fun of my golf habit and I remember I gave her a psuedo-lesson on her front porch on our first date - in the snow - just before kissing her.

Christ, someone stop me.

[diebitter]

[ QUOTE ]

She used to make fun of my golf habit and I remember I gave her a psuedo-lesson on her front porch on our first date - in the snow - just before kissing her.


[/ QUOTE ]

Man, I'm a tough nut, but that got to me.

Stop now, it's best not to open the book at every page. Keep some just for you and maybe her to remember.

I hate to be a major pussy, but I'm moved to recount a poem - a London poem I think - that I used to think on when I lost what I thought was the love of my life. I hope you find it of some comfort:

This old world's a funny place,
And yet it's hard to beat
With every rose, you get a thorn,
But ain't the roses sweet?

[IndieMatty]

[ QUOTE ]
[ QUOTE ]
[ QUOTE ]
I think we can all agree that we have that one person in our past that we will always regret not treating better or not trying hard enough to make it work.
As we move on and start new relationships, we realize how good that person was to us and we start to beat oursleves up for being so retarded.
I think you reaction was normal and it's great you were able to see her again. I am sure it got your blood pumping /images/graemlins/grin.gif.
She will always be a very special person to you and being emotional about it is normal human behavior. /images/graemlins/heart.gif

[/ QUOTE ]

Smart again.

Let your prize begin.

[/ QUOTE ]

So if I answer to your stalkish replies, do you have to reply to them as well? This could be a lot of work.

[/ QUOTE ]

Perhaps this wasn't a good idea.

[mslif]

[ QUOTE ]
[ QUOTE ]
[ QUOTE ]
[ QUOTE ]
I think we can all agree that we have that one person in our past that we will always regret not treating better or not trying hard enough to make it work.
As we move on and start new relationships, we realize how good that person was to us and we start to beat oursleves up for being so retarded.
I think you reaction was normal and it's great you were able to see her again. I am sure it got your blood pumping /images/graemlins/grin.gif.
She will always be a very special person to you and being emotional about it is normal human behavior. /images/graemlins/heart.gif

[/ QUOTE ]

Smart again.

Let your prize begin.

[/ QUOTE ]

So if I answer to your stalkish replies, do you have to reply to them as well? This could be a lot of work.

[/ QUOTE ]

Perhaps this wasn't a good idea.

[/ QUOTE ]

I think you are right /images/graemlins/frown.gif What to do then?

[RunDownHouse]

[ QUOTE ]
Christ, someone stop me.

[/ QUOTE ]
Despite your protest to the contrary, it really sounds like you're still hung up on this chick.

[samjjones]

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I call BS on this. This dovetails with the moaning you were doing the other day about 'mixed signals' and so on, which you denied had anything to do with a woman other than your wife. Even if it's not this person, you need to stop doing this crap, yo. It is far from cool.

[/ QUOTE ]

That doesn't need to be brought up again. This person has nothing to do with anything. I just used this girl as an example relating to the op. Y'all turned it inot a hijack and jumped all over it. I am 100% certain there is nothing in either of our feelings that is remotely romantic. If we were both naked in front of each other now, nothing would happen. I don't get why y'all are so all over this. /images/graemlins/mad.gif

[/ QUOTE ]
There is nothing romantic "now". Who's to say in a couple of weeks that one of your innocent conversations won't bring up some memory of the past that reignites the feelings you are trying to suppress. And by your first post, where you called her "the most beautiful, intelligent", etc...you obviously still some feelings there. Again, judgesmails has a point...people in a committed relationship don't call ex-flames out of the blue unless they are looking for something...be it rekindling the relationship, or closure. Definitely doesn't sound like the latter in this instance.

[judgesmails]

[ QUOTE ]
This old world's a funny place,
And yet it's hard to beat
With every rose, you get a thorn,
But ain't the roses sweet?

[/ QUOTE ]

Wasn't that a Poison song?

[judgesmails]

[ QUOTE ]
Despite your protest to the contrary, it really sounds like you're still hung up on this chick.

[/ QUOTE ]

Maybe today. But not 2 days ago, and I certainly won't be 2 days from now.

Fair enough?

[Shajen]

You'll get nothing and like it.



Seriously though, tough spot. I imagine seeing her brought back a flood of feelings you thought you'd buried for good. I'd focus on the now and try to rebury her.

I hear this guy can help:

http://sportsmed.starwave.com/media/pg2/2002/0726/photo/gopher.jpg

Weird.

I had an ex call me the day before I got married out of the blue. That was awkward.

[jakethebake]

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Plus he does that cool little dance. "I'm all riiight. Don't nobody worry 'bout me......" /images/graemlins/grin.gif

[judgesmails]

I love the Caddyshack reference, obviously. Me and some friends actually used to play a private tourney every Sunday on PokerStars called "Bushwood". Most of my screen names are Caddyshack/Bushwood related.

Anyway, I agree with the main point of your post and ex's seem to have an uncanny ability to show up at just the wrong time...

Right Jake?

[jakethebake]

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Anyway, I agree with the main point of your post and ex's seem to have an uncanny ability to show up at just the wrong time... Right Jake?

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Normally I'd agree but in my recent case, her timing was uncannily good. But everyone needs to get off this thing.

[Ulysses]

There's one girl (who I haven't seen in 12 years or so) that I'd feel pretty much exactly this way about. There are a couple of others who I do see from time to time and have much milder feelings like this about. It's just natural, I think.

[bernie]

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We went on like this for some time, laughing and avoiding reality.

When the conversation turned real, things got tense and we both remembered the awkward and dissapointing terms of when we last parted ways.

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You mean you were avoiding your reality. Why bring up past crap? This is likely what made her nervous. It doesn't sound like the break up was a real picnic for her either. Even if she brought it up, brush it off. It was years ago. Change the subject back to something pleasant and recent or about the good times of the past.

She seems to be the only one that moved on to a degree. Her husband is an insecure idiot as is his mom. Unless, she was dating him while doing you. Then I could see it a little.

The reason you reacted the way you did? You probably never really got over her or the fact she dumped you. This was probably the first girl you really got emotionally bonded to instead of just banging. Those are the firsts the guys remember. Their emotional cherry being popped.

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[ptmusic]

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I had left one of my girl friends in a similiar manor. I had actually called it off and showed her the door.

Later on that night forgetting she had a key to the apt.

She let her self in striped down to her hot as hell little 110lb 38b cup b-suit and climbed on top of my half staffed mule.

I thought to my self OK i can do this. As she is riding my she asks me "Do your really want to leave this"

I paused for a second as I busted off a salty little rocket.

Yes, as I rolled her ass right back out the front door after taking her key.
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That was a great story.

-ptmusic