Lonely?

How many people here consider themselves lonely most of the time?

[xadrez]

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My wife left me /images/graemlins/laugh.gif
But took me son I only see him on wekends /images/graemlins/frown.gif


But I have you all /images/graemlins/cool.gif

[diebitter]

This thread has the potential to be very, very depressing.

[Yeti]

Somewhat.

[gildwulf]

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My wife left me /images/graemlins/laugh.gif
But took me son I only see him on wekends /images/graemlins/frown.gif


But I have you all /images/graemlins/cool.gif


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Damn, that sucks...

[gildwulf]

I just started gradschool in a new country and a new city and I don't really know anyone and I'm doing long distance with my girlfriend. So yea, I get lonely.

[mslif]

I was lonely but now I have diebitter /images/graemlins/grin.gif

[diebitter]

lol - you're a peach, but you know it's only textual, right?

[mslif]

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lol - you're a peach, but you know it's only textual, right?

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Men... All the same /images/graemlins/frown.gif

[diebitter]

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lol - you're a peach, but you know it's only textual, right?

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Men... All the same /images/graemlins/frown.gif

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Frightened of the strength of our own feelings, you mean? /images/graemlins/blush.gif

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I was lonely but now I have diebitter /images/graemlins/grin.gif

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good point. I kind of like him too in the mornings. It's the accent that does it for me.

[diebitter]

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I was lonely but now I have diebitter /images/graemlins/grin.gif

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good point. I kind of like him too in the mornings. It's the accent that does it for me.

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Kay, that's another thread successfully hijacked. Next!

[mslif]

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lol - you're a peach, but you know it's only textual, right?

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Men... All the same /images/graemlins/frown.gif

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Frightened of the strength of our own feelings, you mean? /images/graemlins/blush.gif

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I am glad you are conscious of it and don't be frightened, I'm nice /images/graemlins/wink.gif

[jakethebake]

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This thread has the potential to be very, very depressing.

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Yes. But frankly I'm surprised it's not skewed the other way.

[spamuell]

It's the accent that does it for me.

Diebitter, what accent is it you have? One of the South London ones, right?

[diebitter]

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It's the accent that does it for me.

Diebitter, what accent is it you have? One of the South London ones, right?

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Yeah, the promised land. But I'm deep-voiced, and am pretty spunky on the phone, the laydeez tell me. A bit like Jason Statham soundalike (the guy in Lock Stock, Snatch and the Transporter).

[Los Feliz Slim]

I am the opposite of lonely.

I feel bad for the OP. I'm sorry you're lonely /images/graemlins/frown.gif
Hope things get better.

[jakethebake]

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I feel bad for the OP. I'm sorry you're lonely /images/graemlins/frown.gif
Hope things get better.

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You clearly didn't read the OP's first couple of posts. /images/graemlins/tongue.gif

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I feel bad for the OP. I'm sorry you're lonely /images/graemlins/frown.gif
Hope things get better.

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You clearly didn't read the OP's first couple of posts. /images/graemlins/tongue.gif

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OH [censored]

[jakethebake]

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I feel bad for the OP. I'm sorry you're lonely /images/graemlins/frown.gif
Hope things get better.

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You clearly didn't read the OP's first couple of posts. /images/graemlins/tongue.gif

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OH [censored]

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I don't think lonliness is the issue somehow.

[lucas9000]

there are 6,000,000,000+ people in the world. if you think there is one person out there somewhere who is perfect for you (your "soulmate"), what are the chances you'll find that person? more likely is that most people end up settling for someone who is close enough to perfect as they think they'll get. some "settle" more liberally than others.

hell, even if you assume there is one person who is perfect for you in the us, that's still like 250,000,000+ people to sift through.

what i'm getting at is that i think it's nearly impossible for a person to find their "soulmate" (or whatever), and for the feeling to be mutual. accept that and decide what your standards are for settling on someone else. if you don't want to settle for less than the perfect person for you, that's fine, but then you have to accept that you'll most likely be alone (in the romantic/love sense of the word) your entire life.

[jakethebake]

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there are 6,000,000,000+ people in the world. if you think there is one person out there somewhere who is perfect for you (your "soulmate"), what are the chances you'll find that person? more likely is that most people end up settling for someone who is close enough to perfect as they think they'll get. some "settle" more liberally than others.

hell, even if you assume there is one person who is perfect for you in the us, that's still like 250,000,000+ people to sift through.

what i'm getting at is that i think it's nearly impossible for a person to find their "soulmate" (or whatever), and for the feeling to be mutual. accept that and decide what your standards are for settling on someone else. if you don't want to settle for less than the perfect person for you, that's fine, but then you have to accept that you'll most likely be alone (in the romantic/love sense of the word) your entire life.

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Maybe you don't just have one soulmate. Maybe there are many you could be happy with. Or maybe there are many that are perfect for you in different ways.

[MikeNaked]

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I am the opposite of lonely.

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Me too...I wish I was more lonely.

[jakethebake]

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I am the opposite of lonely.

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Me too...I wish I was more lonely.

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Was the question lonely or alone? God knows I'm never alone. /images/graemlins/tongue.gif

I could really use some alone time.

[lucas9000]

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there are 6,000,000,000+ people in the world. if you think there is one person out there somewhere who is perfect for you (your "soulmate"), what are the chances you'll find that person? more likely is that most people end up settling for someone who is close enough to perfect as they think they'll get. some "settle" more liberally than others.

hell, even if you assume there is one person who is perfect for you in the us, that's still like 250,000,000+ people to sift through.

what i'm getting at is that i think it's nearly impossible for a person to find their "soulmate" (or whatever), and for the feeling to be mutual. accept that and decide what your standards are for settling on someone else. if you don't want to settle for less than the perfect person for you, that's fine, but then you have to accept that you'll most likely be alone (in the romantic/love sense of the word) your entire life.

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Maybe you don't just have one soulmate. Maybe there are many you could be happy with. Or maybe there are many that are perfect for you in different ways.

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yeah, you could probably be happy with a certain range of people who are within your parameters for what you'll "settle" for. obviously the wider that range, the more likely you are to find one of those people.

[offTopic]

Not any more. I've been in a serious relationship for nearly two years. Three years ago, I'd've voted Yes.

[touchfaith]

Where is the option for 'undecided'?

[jakethebake]

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yeah, you could probably be happy with a certain range of people who are within your parameters for what you'll "settle" for. obviously the wider that range, the more likely you are to find one of those people.

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maybe there's no perfect person at all. all there is is a range. yea, it can be wider or tighter. but i think the range of what you'll be happy with is set for you. you can consciously choose to widen it, but you won't be happy.

[jakethebake]

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maybe there's no perfect person at all. all there is is a range. yea, it can be wider or tighter. but i think the range of what you'll be happy with is set for you. you can consciously choose to widen it, but you won't be happy.

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And maybe the range is set, and you've chosen to narrow it, thereby reducing your chance of meeting someone you could be ahppy with. Or maybe you just need to start hanging around those ESL classes...

[touchfaith]

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maybe there's no perfect person at all. all there is is a range. yea, it can be wider or tighter. but i think the range of what you'll be happy with is set for you. you can consciously choose to widen it, but you won't be happy.

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And maybe the range is set, and you've chosen to narrow it, thereby reducing your chance of meeting someone you could be ahppy with. Or maybe you just need to start hanging around those ESL classes...

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Good, you've finally gotten to the point were you have to reply to yourself.

[asofel]

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yeah, you could probably be happy with a certain range of people who are within your parameters for what you'll "settle" for. obviously the wider that range, the more likely you are to find one of those people.

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maybe there's no perfect person at all. all there is is a range. yea, it can be wider or tighter. but i think the range of what you'll be happy with is set for you. you can consciously choose to widen it, but you won't be happy.

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i think its set at an initial place, but (hopefully) changes throughout your life as you grow, change, and learn about yourself and others. Sometimes you have to sacrifice. Sometimes someone else has to for you. But these 'negative' or maybe 'against your own desire' kinds of things return something much stronger in the end.

[jakethebake]

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i think its set at an initial place, but (hopefully) changes throughout your life as you grow, change, and learn about yourself and others.

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An excellent point. Values change.

I'll chip in

The only thing worse then being alone, is having someone and still feeling alone.

[jakethebake]

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The only thing worse then being alone, is having someone and still feeling alone.

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This is a very good post. You seem much more reasonable than your alter ego. I'm undecided whether to ignore you or not.

[WackityWhiz]

If my girlfriend doesn't take me back, I might have to re-read that suicide note thread for some ideas /images/graemlins/frown.gif

[IndieMatty]

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The only thing worse then being alone, is having someone and still feeling alone.

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this is a good statement and true

[jakethebake]

I'm very lonely tonight. I haven't seen my kids in 5 days. I really miss them. Funny how you get used to having certain sounds around you all the time. /images/graemlins/frown.gif

[jason_t]

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I'm very lonely tonight. I haven't seen my kids in 5 days. I really miss them. Funny how you get used to having certain sounds around you all the time. /images/graemlins/frown.gif

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[utmt40]

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How many people here consider themselves lonely most of the time?

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Jake is that you?

[jakethebake]

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How many people here consider themselves lonely most of the time?

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Jake is that you?

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That was the op. I just bumped the thread because I'm feeling lonely tonight. /images/graemlins/frown.gif

[utmt40]

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How many people here consider themselves lonely most of the time?

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Jake is that you?

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That was the op. I just bumped the thread because I'm feeling lonely tonight.

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I thought maybe you created a gimmick account...

[jakethebake]

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How many people here consider themselves lonely most of the time?

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Jake is that you?

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That was the op. I just bumped the thread because I'm feeling lonely tonight.

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I thought maybe you created a gimmick account...

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No. I was just feeling lonely tonight.

[elmo]

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this is a good statement and true


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I have the greatest girlfriend in the world... it just so happens that she is on the other side of the world studying abroad. Its awful. Not quite what the quote was talking about, but close enough.

[elmo]

Though in fairness, any time I'm on page 2 of OOT, I'm prolly pretty lonely.

[Sightless]

I am a loner, but i am not very lonly most of the time.

[diebitter]

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I'm very lonely tonight. I haven't seen my kids in 5 days. I really miss them. Funny how you get used to having certain sounds around you all the time. /images/graemlins/frown.gif

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Coincidence!

My kids were away too for a week last week - till Saturday, and by about day 4-5 I was feeling so down I just wanted to sleep and wake up when they got home.

So great when they get home though!

I feel for ya here, Jake.

[jokerthief]

How can you be lonely when you have the wonderful companionship and fellowship of OOT? /images/graemlins/smirk.gif

[imported_anacardo]

A little, but loneliness rules. For some of us, it's our natural state.

[RRRRICK]

I think loneliness has little to do with spending lengthy periods of time by yourself.

I live alone and don't have a girlfriend. I have a lot of male friends and spend lots of time out and about.

The time I spend alone I enjoy, but I do feel lonely from time to time