My Friend's Having a Crisis. Important question.

[Jack of Arcades]

On the 6th, my friend, a 16-year-old girl, was found by her mom with about a dime of weed. She got kicked out/ran away of the house tonight and is staying with a friend.

Given that:

1) She's 16
2) Not a previous offender
3) Lives in Louisiana
4) Was only in possession of a dime and
5) Has not been caught with it by the authorities

What can she expect to happen to her?

Oh, also, her mother found nude pictures of her on her computer. I'm not sure if there's any evidence of transmission to anyone else. If not, is there anything that can be done about that?

[pokerdirty]

i think you may be a very naive person.

[Sightless]

She got kicked out for having dime of weed?

[Jack of Arcades]

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She got kicked out for having dime of weed?

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No, there's a lot of factors that go into that, including her mother stealing money from her, her having sex with her boyfriend, and plenty of other things.

[Jack of Arcades]

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i think you may be a very naive person.

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Why do you say that?

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She got kicked out for having dime of weed?

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No, there's a lot of factors that go into that, including her mother stealing money from her, her having sex with her boyfriend, and plenty of other things.

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She had sex with her mom's boyfriend at 16?? That's [censored] up.

[Jack of Arcades]

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She got kicked out for having dime of weed?

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No, there's a lot of factors that go into that, including her mother stealing money from her, her having sex with her boyfriend, and plenty of other things.

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She had sex with her mom's boyfriend at 16?? That's [censored] up.

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Damned VPR.

[smokingrobot]

sounds like she's going to have to go through what every other adolescent goes through when they get caught doing things their folks dont want them to.

it sucks, but i think them's the breaks.

perhaps she should stop smoking pot if she wants to live under someone else's roof and someone else's rules.

its not that im against pot, but i could understand why a parent wouldnt want their impressionable 16 yr old doing it.

which isnt to say i didnt smoke pot at 16, but thats besides the point.

she can probably expect to be grounded for a long time... which means no fun, but her life is far from over.

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she can probably expect to be grounded for a long time... which means no fun, but her life is far from over.

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I was thinking more along the lines of legal consequences. She called me not an hour ago in tears about the whole situation.

[Patrick del Poker Grande]

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she can probably expect to be grounded for a long time... which means no fun, but her life is far from over.

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I was thinking more along the lines of legal consequences. She called me not an hour ago in tears about the whole situation.

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What? There are no legal consequences. It's all on what the mom wants to do.

[Jack of Arcades]

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she can probably expect to be grounded for a long time... which means no fun, but her life is far from over.

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I was thinking more along the lines of legal consequences. She called me not an hour ago in tears about the whole situation.

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What? There are no legal consequences. It's all on what the mom wants to do.

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I meant If the mom goes to the authorities. There's nothing?

[Eurotrash]

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WWSD?

[istewart]

Tell her to go to the Superdome and hide.

[smokingrobot]

wait is her mom a cop?

why would her parents turn her in to the authorities?

she'll get a slap on the wrist as a first time offense. a dime bag is definately not intent to distribute.

but i think this changes from state to state (anyone know for sure?)

she'll be upset and bummed out either way.

i suggest that no matter the outcome, if she still wants to pick up dime bags, she probably should A) not keep it at her house and B) perhaps not pick up dime bags anymore, or at least for a long time.

[KDawgCometh]

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she can probably expect to be grounded for a long time... which means no fun, but her life is far from over.

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I was thinking more along the lines of legal consequences. She called me not an hour ago in tears about the whole situation.

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it'd be hard for the cops to prove that its her weed and not her moms if they don't find anything in her room. If for some reason she gets arrested she is gonna be slapped on the wrist, a dime bag is nothing. She is massivly over reacting to the situation and should go back home and face the music

[cnfuzzd]

she can move in with me....

tell her to bring the weed

peace

john nickle

[UCF THAYER]

I know it got old, but seriously,


<font color="white">SIIHP </font>

[Jack of Arcades]

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wait is her mom a cop?

why would her parents turn her in to the authorities?

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Because her mom's a gigantic bitch.

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On the 6th, my friend, a 16-year-old girl, was found by her mom with about a dime of weed. She got kicked out/ran away of the house tonight and is staying with a friend.

Given that:

1) She's 16
2) Not a previous offender
3) Lives in Louisiana
4) Was only in possession of a dime and
5) Has not been caught with it by the authorities

What can she expect to happen to her?

Oh, also, her mother found nude pictures of her on her computer. I'm not sure if there's any evidence of transmission to anyone else. If not, is there anything that can be done about that?

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A bad spanking. So PM me the naked pic and adress and ill spank her....

[Ogre]

how old are you that you have a 16 year old friend

[edfurlong]

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On the 6th, my friend, a 16-year-old girl, was found by her mom with about a dime of weed. She got kicked out/ran away of the house tonight and is staying with a friend.

Given that:

1) She's 16
2) Not a previous offender
3) Lives in Louisiana
4) Was only in possession of a dime and
5) Has not been caught with it by the authorities

What can she expect to happen to her?

Oh, also, her mother found nude pictures of her on her computer. I'm not sure if there's any evidence of transmission to anyone else. If not, is there anything that can be done about that?

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A bad spanking. So PM me the naked pic and adress and ill spank her....

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Bet you a grand that you don't...

[KDawgCometh]

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Tell her to go to the Superdome and hide.

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sooo wrong, yet sooo funny

[Jack of Arcades]

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She is massivly over reacting to the situation and should go back home and face the music.

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I should have been more clear. She did not "run away" because of this situation. She's been discussing moving out for about two months now, even with her mother. She agreed to give it one week the other day before she finally did so, but just left today, probably over some blow-up not involving this.

[Jack of Arcades]

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how old are you that you have a 16 year old friend

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18.

[DavidC]

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On the 6th, my friend, a 16-year-old girl, was found by her mom with about a dime of weed. She got kicked out/ran away of the house tonight and is staying with a friend.

Given that:

1) She's 16
2) Not a previous offender
3) Lives in Louisiana
4) Was only in possession of a dime and
5) Has not been caught with it by the authorities

What can she expect to happen to her?

Oh, also, her mother found nude pictures of her on her computer. I'm not sure if there's any evidence of transmission to anyone else. If not, is there anything that can be done about that?

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Why didn't I meet girls like this in high school? Oh yeah, because I was/am a dork, that's why. /images/graemlins/smile.gif

Um... let's see: re: the pictures.

1) destroy that HD. It's not a good idea to have them. Don't reformat, actually take the HD apart, and dispose of it. You can do it in front of them if you want. There's programs out there that will clean a drive, but I don't know of any. But yeah, destroy that drive, copying all essential files over to another drive, reinstall the o/s, etc. It's pretty embarassing for her I bet, so if I were a parent I wouldn't punish her for it, but I'd have a good long talk about why it's retarded to do that at her age.

Re: the dime.

Well, no comment I guess. /images/graemlins/smile.gif

Edit: and as far as what she can expect to happen to her, that just depends on her parents. /images/graemlins/smile.gif

[tonypaladino]

EDIT: question answered while i was posting, never mind

[Jack of Arcades]

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I know it got old, but seriously,


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Dude, I wish. I've been tryin' to hit that for years but it seriously hurt my chances that she was dating my best friend when I met her.

I'd put her up here but said best friend lives with me and is not on speaking terms with her.

[DavidC]

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she can probably expect to be grounded for a long time... which means no fun, but her life is far from over.

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I was thinking more along the lines of legal consequences. She called me not an hour ago in tears about the whole situation.

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What? There are no legal consequences. It's all on what the mom wants to do.

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I meant If the mom goes to the authorities. There's nothing?

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Her mom kept the pot?

I'd explain to the cops that I'd never seen it before!! /images/graemlins/cool.gif

[tonypaladino]

can i have her #????????????????????

i am only 22, so its not really that creepy

[smokingrobot]

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so its not really that creepy

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that might've just pushed it over the edge to creepy.

[tonypaladino]

if i thought there was a chance i'd actually get the number.... that would be creepy

Sounds like she's on the highway to Stripperville.

Useful career tips. (http://www.thebestpageintheuniverse.net/c.cgi?u=cam_whore)

I am so freaking confused. I've smoked too much weed to follow this whole thread. Did someone call the cops or not? If not then what the hell?


If her parents are so nuts that they'd turn in their own daughter than she had better cut it out with the drugs for awhile or she may be screwed.

[KDawgCometh]

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Sounds like she's on the highway to Stripperville.

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or porn

[Jack of Arcades]

Her mom has threatened to call the cops.

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Her mom has threatened to call the cops.

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i doubt that she will, its a power play on her mom's part

[Jack of Arcades]

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Sounds like she's on the highway to Stripperville.

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or porn

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Yeah, given what I've said in the thread it'd sound likely, but there's honestly no way she'd ever do that.

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Her mom has threatened to call the cops.

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i doubt that she will, its a power play on her mom's part

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That's what I figure too, but there's no underestimating her mom's douchebaggery. Like I said, she has stolen &gt; $100 from her before.

[smokingrobot]

no, then that would be awesome.

do you see why?

[KDawgCometh]

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or porn

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Yeah, given what I've said in the thread it'd sound likely, but there's honestly no way she'd ever do that.

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give her til she's 20 and then say that, seriously, she has some serious problems with herself and her home life

[Jack of Arcades]

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Sounds like she's on the highway to Stripperville.

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or porn

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Yeah, given what I've said in the thread it'd sound likely, but there's honestly no way she'd ever do that.

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give her til she's 20 and then say that, seriously, she has some serious problems with herself and her home life

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Heh. She's not a pothead or anything, she hasn't even smoked in 2 months. The weed was her brother's, which she had bought for him. (This isn't some lame excuse she tried to pawn off on me, I'm close to the situation.)

I firmly believe that this would not be a problem at all if her mom was different. Not to say my friend's not at fault or anything, but this situation just didn't come from what I've mentioned so far. It's been brewing for around 3 years now.

[bugstud]

dude you're 18? so we're talking gm at 23?

anyway...sounds like she either needs to premanently move out or actually resolve to situation with her mom. novel, huh?

[jakethebake]

I'd be more worried about what they can do about her nude pictures on YOUR computer.

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Because her mom's a gigantic bitch.

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She seems like she's definitely a bad parent if her 16 year old girl is screwing her boyfriend, sending naked pics to people over the net and smoking weed.

You aren't the boyfriend are you?

Tell her to go to her mom, apologise, and do whatever it takes to be forgiven.

Then tell her to suck it up and live a clean life till she's 18 (no pot, sex, blowjobs, etc). When she turns 18 she can do whatever the [censored] she likes. She will be a better person for it and enjoy her independence a lot more.

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(no pot, sex, blowjobs, etc).

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communist.

[Colonel Kataffy]

Even if she is a douche. Mom telling on daughter's dime bag isn't enough for the cops to give a crap, let alone make an arrest.

Just tell her to stay the hell away from her crazy mom.

[Los Feliz Slim]

Safe to assume there is no father involved?

Obviously, the pot and the nudity and the semi-incestual cheating are symptoms of much larger issues. Make sure she knows that just because her family is crap (just making assumptions based on what you've said, maybe they're fine people) it doesn't mean she's crap as well. It's not her fault and she's not doomed to failure. The best way to get back at her mother would be to get her [censored] together and live a happy, fulfilling life and raise children in a better manner than her mother did.

And I'm sure the cops would be much more interested in the age of the guy that was [censored] her than a dime bag.

[InchoateHand]

This thread sucks. Not funny at all. The drama element is incredibly [censored] weak too. Tell your friend to get some real problems and to cross the legal threshold of adulthood, and then come back and make a post that doesn't suck.

[Duffman]

When I first read the post I thought that the mom was sleeping with the 16yr old's boyfriend.

I'm kinda disappointed now.

[Jack of Arcades]

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Because her mom's a gigantic bitch.

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She seems like she's definitely a bad parent if her 16 year old girl is screwing her boyfriend, sending naked pics to people over the net and smoking weed.

You aren't the boyfriend are you?

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I'm not the boyfriend, my roommate would never speak to me again if I'd SIIHP.

I was having sex and smoking weed by the time I was 16. My parents were definitely relaxed about the whole thing, though, and it wasn't a big deal.

Anyway, there's a &gt; 90% chance she never lives with her mom ever again. She only has one year a high school left before she leaves for college (fully paid for by her dad).

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I'd put her up here but said best friend lives with me and is not on speaking terms with her.

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You might want to think long and hard about what the legal aspects of this might be.

[JihadOnTheRiver]

Can you make this like one of those challenge posts and constantly update her status? This one could get interesting. Like "ADHOC dime sack to Jerry Springer in 30 days"

-JOTR

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Oh, also, her mother found nude pictures of her on her computer. I'm not sure if there's any evidence of transmission to anyone else.


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I'm having a hard time believing the credibility of this story.

if I was her dad I'd be smacking her upside her head right now 'cause she's freakin immoral and evidently has poor judgement.

[tripdad]

even if her mom calls the cops...which she most likely will not...they will do absolutely nothing about it, except maybe tell the mom to raise her own child.

the real issue is her smoking weed. weed is a lot different than it was 10 years ago. it affects the psyche of a teenager in such a bad way that it simply isn't worth the buzz you get or the social acceptance you gain from using it. you really should do some research on the subject and try to talk this girl into quitting that habit. it could seriously lead to some major problems.

BTW, i'm not, overall, anti-marijuana. i've smoked it as recently as this June myself actually. the difference is, i'm 33 years old. i also smoked som when i was a teen, but again, much of today's strains of wed are much more powerful and generally affect moods and self esteem much more negatively...a recipe for disaster for 16 year olds.

(as for the nude pics, she shouldn't be doing that either. does she want to be a porn star or what? guarantee she will regret that.)

cheers!

[Jack of Arcades]

Update:

She's moved in with her school friend, whose parents are going to fight for guardianship.

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I'd put her up here but said best friend lives with me and is not on speaking terms with her.

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You might want to think long and hard about what the legal aspects of this might be.

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My friend called the cops to make sure that her mother did not interfere with her leaving.

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Oh, also, her mother found nude pictures of her on her computer. I'm not sure if there's any evidence of transmission to anyone else.


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I'm having a hard time believing the credibility of this story.

if I was her dad I'd be smacking her upside her head right now 'cause she's freakin immoral and evidently has poor judgement.

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Of that household, she's the one with the best judgment.

[Jack of Arcades]

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much of today's strains of wed are much more powerful and generally affect moods and self esteem much more negatively...

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you really should do some research on the subject

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Irrronnnyyy! And you really haven't even read the thread. She hasn't smoked in 2 months and has only smoked 4 times.

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(as for the nude pics, she shouldn't be doing that either. does she want to be a porn star or what? guarantee she will regret that.)

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The photos were personal and the only people who have seen them are herself, her boyfriend and, now, her mother.

[Patrick del Poker Grande]

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(as for the nude pics, she shouldn't be doing that either. does she want to be a porn star or what? guarantee she will regret that.)

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The photos were personal and the only people who have seen them are herself, her boyfriend and, now, her mother.

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Don't worry - they'll be all over the internet next month after they break up.

[Jack of Arcades]

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(as for the nude pics, she shouldn't be doing that either. does she want to be a porn star or what? guarantee she will regret that.)

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The photos were personal and the only people who have seen them are herself, her boyfriend and, now, her mother.

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Don't worry - they'll be all over the internet next month after they break up.

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Heh. The only person who has access to them is her mother. They are nowhere but on the computer