LetYouDown
08-24-2005, 02:50 PM
I was born and raised in Western New York. Lived here until I was 20, then I moved to Florida (mostly to get away from an ex-girlfriend), but also because I needed a change. My parents moved there after I was done with high school and I moved down and stayed with them for a while. I was in love with a girl and things didn't work out, and nothing else in my life seemed to be going right. So, long story short I ended up in Florida for a couple of years. When I was there, I met my current girlfriend. She's the nicest person I've ever met (anyone who knows her feels that way well). She's very attractive, loyal, funny, honest, sweet...basically any good adjective you can use. I love her.
I eventually moved back to New York while we were still dating, mostly because I wasn't a big fan of Florida and once again felt like I needed a change. We stayed together through all of this and she moved up here after about 9 months apart. She got an apartment with a bunch of our mutual friends up here, but eventually that relationship turned sour and the girls she was rooming with stabbed her in the back. Without many other options, she moved in with me. She was living with me for about 2 months when her life became overwhelming. She started to get homesick, she missed her family, her job sucked, she felt like her life was going nowhere, etc. Typical mid-life crisis stuff at age 24. We also hadn't been getting along well because we saw each other constantly and I also had a tendency to be an [censored] more often than not.
We're still together, but she's in Florida now and neither of us knows if she's going to be moving back. She needs to get her head on straight and she needs to be with her family now. I don't want to lose her, but I'm not sure if moving back to Florida will be the best thing for me. She's definitely the most important person in my life, but I don't want to move to Florida and hate it for another 2 years and just waste more time. I came up with a top 7 pros/cons of moving/staying, they are as follows:
Pros for moving to Florida:
1.) Her
2.) A change, which I desperately need.
3.) No winter (this can't be underestimated)
4.) No state income tax/better job market
5.) Better night life
6.) Nice apartments
7.) Attractive women (at least something nice to look at)
Pros for staying:
1.) I would miss my family
2.) Family has a summer home nearby where I have a lot of friends that I would miss.
3.) My grandmother is getting on in years and health is deteriorating.
4.) School would be more expensive (I'd be out of state for a year)
5.) People are just "different", not as personable from what I've noticed.
6.) It doesn't feel like home
7.) I'd feel severely alienated from friends/family that are here if I move.
I eventually moved back to New York while we were still dating, mostly because I wasn't a big fan of Florida and once again felt like I needed a change. We stayed together through all of this and she moved up here after about 9 months apart. She got an apartment with a bunch of our mutual friends up here, but eventually that relationship turned sour and the girls she was rooming with stabbed her in the back. Without many other options, she moved in with me. She was living with me for about 2 months when her life became overwhelming. She started to get homesick, she missed her family, her job sucked, she felt like her life was going nowhere, etc. Typical mid-life crisis stuff at age 24. We also hadn't been getting along well because we saw each other constantly and I also had a tendency to be an [censored] more often than not.
We're still together, but she's in Florida now and neither of us knows if she's going to be moving back. She needs to get her head on straight and she needs to be with her family now. I don't want to lose her, but I'm not sure if moving back to Florida will be the best thing for me. She's definitely the most important person in my life, but I don't want to move to Florida and hate it for another 2 years and just waste more time. I came up with a top 7 pros/cons of moving/staying, they are as follows:
Pros for moving to Florida:
1.) Her
2.) A change, which I desperately need.
3.) No winter (this can't be underestimated)
4.) No state income tax/better job market
5.) Better night life
6.) Nice apartments
7.) Attractive women (at least something nice to look at)
Pros for staying:
1.) I would miss my family
2.) Family has a summer home nearby where I have a lot of friends that I would miss.
3.) My grandmother is getting on in years and health is deteriorating.
4.) School would be more expensive (I'd be out of state for a year)
5.) People are just "different", not as personable from what I've noticed.
6.) It doesn't feel like home
7.) I'd feel severely alienated from friends/family that are here if I move.