Divorced

[mslif]

I noticed a lot of threads and/or replies about happy married couples... I was wondering how many people on this forum are actually divorced.

[touchfaith]

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Consider yourself special if you where able to get a glimse of my personal life before it got delete/quoted

[Barry]

I got divorced about 2 years ago after about 20 years of marrige. The financial settlement sucked, but my 2 teenage boys got over it and I married a great woman. We have a wonderful 19 month old daughter.

The trauma is always hard, but it's better than staying in a marrige devoid of love.

[sublime]

I married a great woman

i can attest to her hotness anyways. barry got skillz.

[zoomOut]

Oh Christ why do you people do that? I want to know your weird story thinman. Just make something up and repost.

[mslif]

I am happy to hear you found someone else and that you were able to trust again. It gives some hope to people like me.

[Barry]

I would smack you for that; but AngelFish appreciated the complement. /images/graemlins/smirk.gif

[kdog]

Multiple times. Now I'm back with the 2nd ex but neither one of us wants to say I do again.

[sublime]

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I would smack you for that; but AngelFish appreciated the complement. /images/graemlins/smirk.gif

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i meant it in a nice way /images/graemlins/smile.gif

[ddubois]

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I got divorced about 2 years ago... 19 month old daughter.

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So you knocked up some other girl while still married?

[mslif]

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I got divorced about 2 years ago... 19 month old daughter.

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So you knocked up some other girl while still married?

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Divorce proceedings may take a while to be finalized

[ddubois]

Yes, and they should be finalized before getting entangled in a relationship with someone else. Not just out of 'respect for the institution of marriage', but because it's best everyone involved, particularly the rebound girl. At least, that what Dr. Joy Browne would say.

[touchfaith]

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Yes, and they should be finalized before getting entangled in a relationship with someone else. Not just out of 'respect for the institution of marriage', but because it's best everyone involved, particularly the rebound girl. At least, that what Dr. Joy Browne would say.

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And thus we see why my post was intentially posted/deleted.

Don't judge dude, you know nothing about this persons situation.

[mslif]

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Yes, and they should be finalized before getting entangled in a relationship with someone else. Not just out of 'respect for the institution of marriage', but because it's best everyone involved, particularly the rebound girl. At least, that what Dr. Joy Browne would say.

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And thus we see why my post was intentially posted/deleted.

Don't judge dude, you know nothing about this persons situation.

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I am starting to think I did the right thing by not posting my story.

[ddubois]

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Don't judge dude, you know nothing about this persons situation.

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Untrue. I know this much:

I got divorced about 2 years ago after about 20 years of marrige. The financial settlement sucked, but my 2 teenage boys got over it and I married a great woman. We have a wonderful 19 month old daughter. The trauma is always hard, but it's better than staying in a marrige devoid of love.

That's actually alot of information. Should I judge him based on this much? Probably not. But then, I didn't say: "I have concluded you are a bad person", nor anything to that effect. Perhaps I judged the situation, and found it to be sub-optimal. I don't need anyone's permission to form an initial impression; people do it on this forum a thousand times a day.

[ddubois]

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I am starting to think I did the right thing by not posting my story.

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Why do you say this? Do you feel your story might embarrass you, or that you have something to be ashamed of? If for some reason you give a rat's ass what people in OOT think about your life and your choices, then yes, perhaps you did the right thing.

I am of the opinion that if your marriage is really bad, you should: 1) work on it, 2) work on it some more, 3) proceed with divorce, 4) finalize the divorce, 5) take some time introspective time off from relationships in general, 6) start dating; and that those steps should be done in that order. Again, not out of respect for marriage in general, nor your own marriage in particular - maybe your wife was evil incarnate - but because it's best for you, and it's best for any new woman who would have to deal with your emotional baggage.

[zoomOut]

The one year rule right? Dr. Joy would be proud of you. Sounds good in theory but implementing it is a feat. Love doesn't always play by rules even when people who set them have the best intentions.

[Happy Hour]

I am. Was married for five years. Thankfully, we had no children.

I have to agree with getting it over with before dating again. If for no other reason than to not have to explain to prospective girlfriends why you are still technically married.

[Barry]

Listen pal...

I really don't need to explain myself to you, but for starters my ex and I had been separated for over 2 years before my current wife became pregnant. Divorces take a long time.

[EliteNinja]

50% of all marriages end in divorce.
That's a very sad fact.

Another sad fact is that the other 50% of marriages end in death.

BRILLIANT!

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I would smack you for that; but AngelFish appreciated the complement. /images/graemlins/smirk.gif

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As long as we're saying nice things about AngelFish, she's one of the few women--and the only twoplustwo significant other I'm aware of--who fit in perfectly at a twoplustwo home game. She can 3-bet blind with the best of them.

Barry's not so bad either.../images/graemlins/smile.gif

scrub

[ddubois]

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50% of all marriages end in divorce.

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I heard this is a myth FWIW.

[mslif]

I do not think my story would embarrassed me. The realization that my marriage was over was one the most devastating feeling I ever had. I just do not want to stir up old feelings. My ex-husband cheated and I'll leave it at that

[Arnfinn Madsen]

I am legally separated (the step before divorce in Norway) but my ex-wife and I have gotten together again and despite many well-intended warnings that it is not so smart, our relationship now is better than ever (hope it lasts /images/graemlins/smile.gif).

[mslif]

I wish you luck, it is great to hear you are back together.

[jason_t]

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The realization that my marriage was over was one the most devastating feeling I ever had. [...] My ex-husband cheated and I'll leave it at that

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[Bluffoon]

Happily divorced six years.

[BigBaitsim (milo)]

17+ years and Mrs. Milo still plans to keep me. Or so she says.

[Dex]

Wow, how did I miss this thread?

I'm divorced. See here (http://forumserver.twoplustwo.com/showthreaded.php?Number=3064946).

[Sponger15SB]

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50% of all marriages end in divorce.

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I heard this is a myth FWIW.

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http://www.straightdope.com/columns/030124.html

"Half of U.S. marriages haven't ended in divorce yet"

[Indiana]

I am as of this morning.
Indy

[mslif]

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I am as of this morning.
Indy

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Your divorce was final today? or did you separate today?

[TimM]

Did she discover OOT and read your posts? Or are you going to try for your own Russian mail-order bride?

[Indiana]

Its not final yet, but its over...and no, i aint goin for a mail order bride...im only 29 man...

Indy

[mslif]

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Its not final yet, but its over...and no, i aint goin for a mail order bride...im only 29 man...

Indy

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Sorry... /images/graemlins/frown.gif