Going off the deep end

[Homer]

So, my gf called me today and told me that she went to a rug store and informed the person working there that she was interested in something in a certain color. I guess this was a fancy store and she seemed out of her element or something, because he immediately said, "Maybe you should go to TJMaxx or Marshalls instead. Plus that way, you can at least walk out with a nice pair of shoes." Basically, he was condescending and sexist. I'm getting tired of people walking all over her and am about ready to snap. I'm tempted to head over there and do something, but I'm not sure what since I'm not a confrontational person. Anyway, I need some suggestions. Should I just punch a wall and grab a beer or should I go out of way to confront this piece of trash?

-- Homer

p.s. - Yes, I realize that this is insignificant and stuff like this happens to everyone, every single day, but I can't take it.

[touchfaith]

This has "talk to his manager and get something stuck in his pooper ASAP" written all over it.

Then key his car.

[swede123]

In this particular instance, if your girl was treated this way by a plain sales person I'd have her go back and ask for the manager. If you want you can come along for moral support, but let her talk to them. If it was indeed the owner himself who treated her this way too bad. Just tell as many people as you can about the experience, discouraging them from going there.

Swede

[BeerMoney]

Isn't it great that a floor person in a carpet showroom can be condescending?

[nothumb]

Yes, you should send as many friends as you have over there to ask for a rug in the same color. It helps if they can pretend to be rich. Then go in there and tell the guy he's a total douche.

The other thing you could do is go in and pretend to be interested in a really expensive rug for your whole 10-room house, get him really worked up about comission, etc. Have your girl call you on your cell and tell her where you are, come on down. Or else just have her walk in at an appointed time. Tell her you're looking at getting all this stuff. Then have her say, "No, honey, this is that needledick who told me to go to TJ Maxx instead."

"Oh, okay honey. Can I talk to the owner, needledick?"

NT

[B Dids]

I'm all for calling people on stuff like this. Just go in there, be polite and talk to his manager. You'll probably end up with a cheaper run anyway.

[stanky]

Why are people always "walking all over her"?

Anyway just call the store and complain to the manager or owner.

[Benal]

She just left without saying anything?

[mslif]

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So, my gf called me today and told me that she went to a rug store and informed the person working there that she was interested in something in a certain color. I guess this was a fancy store and she seemed out of her element or something, because he immediately said, "Maybe you should go to TJMaxx or Marshalls instead. Plus that way, you can at least walk out with a nice pair of shoes." Basically, he was condescending and sexist. I'm getting tired of people walking all over her and am about ready to snap. I'm tempted to head over there and do something, but I'm not sure what since I'm not a confrontational person. Anyway, I need some suggestions. Should I just punch a wall and grab a beer or should I go out of way to confront this piece of trash?

-- Homer

p.s. - Yes, I realize that this is insignificant and stuff like this happens to everyone, every single day, but I can't take it.

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If you confront and end up punching him, you might go to jail for assault. This piece of trash is not worth that. Just have her call the manager and just go have a beer.

[touchfaith]

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The other thing you could do is go in and pretend to be interested in a really expensive rug for your whole 10-room house, get him really worked up about comission, etc. Have your girl call you on your cell and tell her where you are, come on down. Or else just have her walk in at an appointed time. Tell her you're looking at getting all this stuff. Then have her say, "No, honey, this is that needledick who told me to go to TJ Maxx instead."

"Oh, okay honey. Can I talk to the owner, needledick?"

NT

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This is beautiful.

Oh, but if it turns out to be the owner, kick his dog over a bridge, then turn to him and say "THAT'S how I roll..."

[gorie]

have you never seen pretty woman?

what you do is you have her go spend like a TON of money on rugs at other stores. the best. have her haul a truck load of rugs to the original store and make a comment about how he made a HUGE mistake. HUGE. then leave without buying any rugs at the original store and enjoy the look of regret on their face.

[Bukem_]

Dress up all nice, and go pick out a bunch of rugs from this guy. Then when you are about to pay have your girlfriend show up and cut you off since the guy was a prick to her.

[Boris]

yea dude go over there and kick his ass! do it! do it!

if you decide against confrontation this time if there is a next time do it then, otherwise the anger will build up and you might not be able to control you self and end up bashing the guys face in and have a lawsuit on your hands. /images/graemlins/mad.gif

[Homer]

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She just left without saying anything?

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Yes. Well, she probably started crying first or something. She would rather just move on than confront the issue.

[TripleH68]

Have you seen "Punch Drunk Love?"

[Homer]

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yea dude go over there and kick his ass! do it! do it!

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Thanks, dude! I was not considering kicking his ass. I'd probably lose anyway. I was talking about confronting him with words and speaking to his superior.

[Homer]

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Yes, you should send as many friends as you have over there to ask for a rug in the same color. It helps if they can pretend to be rich. Then go in there and tell the guy he's a total douche.

The other thing you could do is go in and pretend to be interested in a really expensive rug for your whole 10-room house, get him really worked up about comission, etc. Have your girl call you on your cell and tell her where you are, come on down. Or else just have her walk in at an appointed time. Tell her you're looking at getting all this stuff. Then have her say, "No, honey, this is that needledick who told me to go to TJ Maxx instead."

"Oh, okay honey. Can I talk to the owner, needledick?"

NT

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Excellent! This is what I was looking for, along with the standard sensible advice of heading over and speaking with the manager. Thanks all.

-- Homer

[Homer]

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Have you seen "Punch Drunk Love?"

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Yes, but I don't remember much of it. Fill me in...

[lucas9000]

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This has "talk to his manager and get something stuck in his pooper ASAP" written all over it.

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this is reasonable and appropriate.

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Then key his car.

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this is never justified.

[swede123]

Of course you should speak to his superior, if there is one. All the various suggestions about rubbing it in the sales person's face are nice and all, but do you really think this kind of stuff would phase someone as rude as that guy obviously is? Clearly he's not that concerned about making his quotas and keeping his customers happy. Go see his manager, try to get his ass fired. Other than that I don't know what to say.

Swede

[Homer]

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Of course you should speak to his superior, if there is one. All the various suggestions about rubbing it in the sales person's face are nice and all, but do you really think this kind of stuff would phase someone as rude as that guy obviously is? Clearly he's not that concerned about making his quotas and keeping his customers happy. Go see his manager, try to get his ass fired. Other than that I don't know what to say.

Swede

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I can't believe how many sensible answers I'm getting. This is OOT, right? /images/graemlins/grin.gif

[MrTrik]

Sounds like both you and your girl are the victim types. Do something! Do anything! I'm not suggesting you get physical or get your ass in trouble, but don't let it slide. You'll regret not doing something if you let it slide.

[daveymck]

I think we should be giving ideas to improve her confidence and self esteem instead of worrying about confronting some carpet salesman.

[James Boston]

Talk to the manager. Be calm, but firm. Tell him what's going on in his store is unacceptable, and question him as to what he plans to do about it. Tell him your intention is to inform the BBB (or a similar organization). This usually gets their attention. Not only will the guy who was an ass to your girl probably get fired, you'll probably get some store credit or something.

[Benal]

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I think we should be giving ideas to improve her confidence and self esteem instead of worrying about confronting some carpet salesman.

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[offTopic]

In what store/city did this happen?

[Homer]

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In what store/city did this happen?

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It was in Westport, CT. I don't know the name of the store.

[Ulysses]

Talking to the guy's boss is of course a good idea. Do you know if your local TV station has a consumer affairs reporter? In Houston there was this reporter Marvin Zindler who loved to do stories about stuff like this - businesses screwing over consumers or treating them badly. This sounds like a great story for someone like that.

[Ulysses]

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Isn't it great that a floor person in a carpet showroom can be condescending?

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This same attitude can be found among salespeople in many places. In my experience, shoe salesmen are often some of the worst. In general, a lot of these people trick themselves into thinking that they are of the same socio-economic status as their customers, which is rarely anywhere close to reality.

[siccjay]

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The other thing you could do is go in and pretend to be interested in a really expensive rug for your whole 10-room house, get him really worked up about comission, etc. Have your girl call you on your cell and tell her where you are, come on down. Or else just have her walk in at an appointed time. Tell her you're looking at getting all this stuff. Then have her say, "No, honey, this is that needledick who told me to go to TJ Maxx instead."

"Oh, okay honey. Can I talk to the owner, needledick?"

NT

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I like this.

[Sponger15SB]

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I can't believe how many sensible answers I'm getting. This is OOT, right? /images/graemlins/grin.gif

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Fine you want some crazy ass advice...

Break into his house in the middle of the night and tie him up and then rape his wife in front of him.

Then piss on all the rugs in his house.

[siccjay]

Or rape him on videotape. Leave him tied up in front of his TV with it on looping playback.

[siccjay]

Extra points for doing the American Psycho arm flex.

[Inthacup]

Do you know if your local TV station has a consumer affairs reporter?

I like this. It has more bite to it than telling the manager. Ideally, the store takes a huge hit in sales due to the bad press and the POS salesman still gets fired.

[B Dids]

I don't see much utility in getting in his face or talking to him at all. He was an ass and he knew he was being an ass when he did it. The only conversation worth having is simply asking him to get you in touch with his manager.

The TV idea is good for pure revenge, although I personally tend to loathe the way those reports are put together and wouldn't want any part of it. Plus if you play nice and work with the manager, cheap/free carpet isn't bad.

[bernie]

I'd go down and have a talk with the manager(with wife there to explain). This guy would lose his job. Even if I had to go all the way to the owners. I couldn't imagine this guy working there the next day. You may also get a nice compensational discount for a new carpet.

btw...Upgrade the pad on your order before the carpet. Not the other way around.

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[hyde]

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Isn't it great that a floor person in a carpet showroom can be condescending?

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been to a starbucks lately?

I suggest you purchase a few porno magazines of varying types, or just choose a few from under your bed, then fill out every order form using his name c/o the address of the store and mail them in. He will shortly be recieving lots of mail at work that might bring his image down a notch.....

or call the store when he is not there and leave a message that he needs to contact his parole officer IMMEDIATELY.

[bernie]

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In this particular instance, if your girl was treated this way by a plain sales person I'd have her go back and ask for the manager. If you want you can come along for moral support, but let her talk to them. If it was indeed the owner himself who treated her this way too bad. Just tell as many people as you can about the experience, discouraging them from going there.

Swede

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I'd be very suprised if it was the owner or manager that did this. They are usually the most sugary sweet, suck up'est (yak!) people on the floor.

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[bernie]

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Isn't it great that a floor person in a carpet showroom can be condescending?

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Ever been to a high end showroom? Salespeople can be condescending no matter what they're selling. Some carpet sales guys are real sleazebags. I can think of 3 right off the bat that I used to deal with regularly. And that wasn't even out of a high end shop.

b

[BeerMoney]

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Isn't it great that a floor person in a carpet showroom can be condescending?

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This same attitude can be found among salespeople in many places. In my experience, shoe salesmen are often some of the worst. In general, a lot of these people trick themselves into thinking that they are of the same socio-economic status as their customers, which is rarely anywhere close to reality.

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ElD,

Is it possible they do this to trick people into buying? They get the person to be like "Hey, I'll show you I can afford this!" And then they buy the item like a knucklehead.

[jakethebake]

fix your avatar first.

[Blarg]

You should talk to the manager about this right away, and also consider writing a letter to the president of the company or any other higher-ups than anyone who works at that branch of the store. I've seen this work like crazy for a crank lawyer I used to work for.

This will get you three things:

1. Personal satisfaction that you've done all you can and are not a wuss or someone who doesn't care about your girlfriend and shows it to her.

2. Satisfaction for her that you're not that kind of a guy.

3. A chance that you might get the merchandise you were after at a discount as the manager's way of making amends. This kind of thing results in freebies or heavy discounts quite frequently in my experience.

I agree with letting the girl doing the talking. Your being there as a bully taking center stage will undermine her and look ridiculous. Your being there as her quiet, neat, tastefully dressed back-up will make them less likely to just openly deny that it ever happened or that it was all some funny ha-ha joke or didn't matter.

The worst thing you can do is let the matter alone. You won't get the discount or the apology if you do, and your girl will be left feeling bad, and so will you. No matter what they say, no woman likes the idea of her guy not backing her up, however futile or unwarranted. And in this case, it's not unwarranted and there's an excellent chance it's not futile.

Tell your girl to see if you can get yourself not only an apology but a discount out of this.

What you want to do is not trap the manager in a corner where he can't get out except by brushing you off or making the situation even worse, but provide him an out -- you want to let him save face instead of lose it, by giving him the opportunity to make things right. Which could put dollars in your pocket.

Satisfaction for righting a wrong, backing up your girl, and getting paid for it at the same time is one hell of a hat trick. Go for it.

[tdarko]

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Oh, but if it turns out to be the owner, kick his dog over a bridge, then turn to him and say "THAT'S how I roll..."

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"where are you?"

"i am in a GLASS FULL OF EMOOOOOTTTION!"

[bernie]

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I agree with letting the girl doing the talking. Your being there as a bully taking center stage will undermine her and look ridiculous.

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This is all in the presentation. Many guys can handle it for the woman without coming across as a bully. This type of situation is actually kind of serious which will overshadow alot of what it may appear as far as the woman not being able to handle herself. I've seen this done, and have had it done while I was out on jobs. The best way is to present it as a team. Calmly. If you know what I mean. That is, if she's not comfortable doing it on her own. Which many women aren't.

That's only a minor point though. I agree with your post.

b

[cardcounter0]

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Plus that way, you can at least walk out with a nice pair of shoes."

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A man said that? A girly faggot man, maybe.
Who really cares about a girly faggot working as a salesman in a carpet store? Take your girl out to a nice resturant for dinner.

[steaknshake925]

what does it mean to key a car?
thx

[fingokra]

Poster: ThinMan
Subject: Re: Going off the deep end


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The other thing you could do is go in and pretend to be interested in a really expensive rug for your whole 10-room house, get him really worked up about comission, etc. Have your girl call you on your cell and tell her where you are, come on down. Or else just have her walk in at an appointed time. Tell her you're looking at getting all this stuff. Then have her say, "No, honey, this is that needledick who told me to go to TJ Maxx instead."

"Oh, okay honey. Can I talk to the owner, needledick?"

NT


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This is beautiful.

Oh, but if it turns out to be the owner, kick his dog over a bridge, then turn to him and say "THAT'S how I roll..."




when "keepin it real" went wrong

[OtisTheMarsupial]

It's almost instinct to want to defend her but if you weren't there to see it happen you probably shouldn't complain about it to the manager.

If your g/f wants to complain to the manager, by all means, go with her as support.

[sexypanda]

Ummm.... how about you mention that he's the ass that WORKS for the store. How condescending can he get? The dude sells rugs for a living. I would have just looked at him, extremely puzzled, and kindly remind him of that fact.

[Stellastarr]

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Have you seen "Punch Drunk Love?"

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[diebitter]

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Yes, you should send as many friends as you have over there to ask for a rug in the same color. It helps if they can pretend to be rich. Then go in there and tell the guy he's a total douche.

The other thing you could do is go in and pretend to be interested in a really expensive rug for your whole 10-room house, get him really worked up about comission, etc. Have your girl call you on your cell and tell her where you are, come on down. Or else just have her walk in at an appointed time. Tell her you're looking at getting all this stuff. Then have her say, "No, honey, this is that needledick who told me to go to TJ Maxx instead."

"Oh, okay honey. Can I talk to the owner, needledick?"

NT

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VNH

[ChipWrecked]

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I can't believe how many sensible answers I'm getting. This is OOT, right? /images/graemlins/grin.gif

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Well, if it would make you feel better:

Give her some of your poker winnings, so she can buy herself a decent wardrobe.









(Sorry H, I'm a Hugh Jass.)

[mslif]

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what does it mean to key a car?
thx

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Take your keys and scratch the side of a car, make sure the scratch is deep and goes all the way along the car.

[dlk9s]

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what does it mean to key a car?
thx

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Take your keys and scratch the side of a car, make sure the scratch is deep and goes all the way along the car.

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And is one of the worst things you can ever do to another person (well, at least to their property).

[1800GAMBLER]

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have you never seen pretty woman?

what you do is you have her go spend like a TON of money on rugs at other stores. the best. have her haul a truck load of rugs to the original store and make a comment about how he made a HUGE mistake. HUGE. then leave without buying any rugs at the original store and enjoy the look of regret on their face.

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Anyone else ever type messages out then press back because they realise the message they are about to send is stupid? Well i did exactly this with the above text, then realised i don't want to admit to seeing this film.

... time to press back again.

[mslif]

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what does it mean to key a car?
thx

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Take your keys and scratch the side of a car, make sure the scratch is deep and goes all the way along the car.

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And is one of the worst things you can ever do to another person (well, at least to their property).

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Douchebags who do that should be beaten repeatedly.

[BoogerFace]

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In what store/city did this happen?

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It was in Westport, CT. I don't know the name of the store.

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Now this makes sense. You have to dress up if you want to be treated decently at upscale shops.

p.s. I'm not justifing the rude behavior by the idiot salesperson, but this happens alot.

[Homer]

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In what store/city did this happen?

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It was in Westport, CT. I don't know the name of the store.

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Now this makes sense. You have to dress up if you want to be treated decently at upscale shops.

p.s. I'm not justifing the rude behavior by the idiot salesperson, but this happens alot.

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She was dressed up, as it was right after work.

I guess her mistake was not carrying her purse on her forearm or wearing a fur coat.

[miajag81]

1. Have your girlfriend fight her own battles. If she didn't have the grapes to verbally (or physically) bitchslap the guy then and there, that's her problem.

2. I really don't think it's worth going back to confront him/the manager regardless. Take your business elsewhere.

[Homer]

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1. Have your girlfriend fight her own battles. If she didn't have the grapes to verbally (or physically) bitchslap the guy then and there, that's her problem.

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Brilliant.

[jthegreat]

Seriously, she needs to grow a spine.

[Notorious G.O.B.]

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Should I just punch a wall and grab a beer or should I go out of way to confront this piece of trash?


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Take my word on this one, pal, do not punch a wall. I have a metal plate in my arm as evidence that it is a bad idea.

[Homer]

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Seriously, she needs to grow a spine.

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This is an old thread. Why bump it?

[Georgia Avenue]

Ninjas are doing it. No one knows why. This should be a sticky.

[Georgia Avenue]

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Ninjas are doing
it. Nobody knows why. This
should be a haiku.

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FMP

[fluff]

Since this thread was bumped anyway, and I just spent 5 minutes of my life reading it, can I at least get the ending of this story?

[pokerdirty]

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Seriously, she needs to grow a spine.

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This is an old thread. Why bump it?

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[censored] ninja bumpers got another one.

[Notorious G.O.B.]

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And is one of the worst things you can ever do to another person (well, at least to their property).

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I don't think it even ranks, although it is pretty stupid.