gorie
07-06-2005, 10:37 PM
inspired by this post (http://forumserver.twoplustwo.com/showflat.php?Cat=&Board=exchange&Number=2804775&Fo rum=,All_Forums,&Words=&Searchpage=0&Limit=25&Main =2802888&Search=true&where=&Name=6510&daterange=&n ewerval=&newertype=&olderval=&oldertype=&bodyprev= #Post2804775).
how important do you think a matching (perception of) "cuteness level" matters when starting a relationship?
it's weird to think about dating someone who thought they were really attractive, but thought i was only average. i can't imagine this not showing through in the relationship, even if they liked me a lot for other reasons. it seems like it would be quite unhealthy to me ? even if it's true to others outside of the relationship, the fact that the person in the relationship perceives it that way themselves, makes a difference to me.
do you think a lot of people feel they are more attractive than their partners ? and it's just a healthy normal thought ? it probably is quite common to feel more attractive than the person you're with, it just got me thinking.
maybe it is because i have a low self esteem as it is and think this would only make it worse, but i can't imagine being in a situation like this doing anyone any good. /images/graemlins/smile.gif yeah it would be great dating someone who is really attractive, but if they didn't see me as being really attractive too, that messes it up for me.
i think it would be ideal to think the person you are with is more attractive than you or equal, than to see yourself as being more attractive.
i can see people becoming less attracted to their partners as time passes and still being in love, but the idea of starting a relationship this way seems a little odd to me.
hmm. just curious what people think, and how you think this affects a relationship.
how important do you think a matching (perception of) "cuteness level" matters when starting a relationship?
it's weird to think about dating someone who thought they were really attractive, but thought i was only average. i can't imagine this not showing through in the relationship, even if they liked me a lot for other reasons. it seems like it would be quite unhealthy to me ? even if it's true to others outside of the relationship, the fact that the person in the relationship perceives it that way themselves, makes a difference to me.
do you think a lot of people feel they are more attractive than their partners ? and it's just a healthy normal thought ? it probably is quite common to feel more attractive than the person you're with, it just got me thinking.
maybe it is because i have a low self esteem as it is and think this would only make it worse, but i can't imagine being in a situation like this doing anyone any good. /images/graemlins/smile.gif yeah it would be great dating someone who is really attractive, but if they didn't see me as being really attractive too, that messes it up for me.
i think it would be ideal to think the person you are with is more attractive than you or equal, than to see yourself as being more attractive.
i can see people becoming less attracted to their partners as time passes and still being in love, but the idea of starting a relationship this way seems a little odd to me.
hmm. just curious what people think, and how you think this affects a relationship.