Conversing

[ClaytonN]

When you engage in conversations with people who you intend to get to know better, do you plan out the kind of things you want to say or engage on the fly and pray there's no dead air? Or, a combination of both?

[Patrick del Poker Grande]

I have a list of things that I carry around in my pocket, sorted for different circumstances.

[Freakin]

Both, generally. Think about particular topics that you want to know about them and lead the conversation in that direction. Find out what they like to talk about.

Freakin

[trying2learn]

planning out conversations is odd imho.

when you start talking with someone with shared interests or at the very least, someone who's bright and open minded - planning should be the last thing to ever pop into your mind.

[jakethebake]

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I have a list of things that I carry around in my pocket, sorted for different circumstances.

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Same here but mine are written on my hand.

[stankybank]

Go w/ the flow. Planning seems sort of geeky. Like an interview or something. Play by heart.

[Jakesta]

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Me too. But I make sure that I don't pull out the dildo until I've known them for at least a week.

[Homer]

I plan out a list of things to say.

For my next conversation, I'm going to talk about how I'm very good at going in reverse in my car and why Postum isn't a more popular drink.

[slickpoppa]

When you think about it, "manure" isn't a bad word. You've got the "ma," which is good, then "newer": "Ma" - "newer"

[Blackjack]

I think a lot of peopl ehave a basic greeting or introduction 'Hey whaddup' "sup kid" "yo dawg" "hello how are you today" "nice to see you again" depending upon your relationship with that person. Then you just gotta go with the flow.

Blackjack

[somethingstupid]

I get drunk first. Then converse.

[Blackjack]

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I get drunk first. Then I stare at the girl's rack

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FYP

or something.. it's hard to converse with distractions like breasts.

[ClaytonN]

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When you think about it, "manure" isn't a bad word. You've got the "ma," which is good, then "newer": "Ma" - "newer"

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[Phoenix1010]

Weird, I had a situation like this come about today. It's much better to engage on the fly. You can avoid dead air if you're clicking well with the person, and those conversations are usually much more fun. I did find myself thinking beforehand of general topics to keep in my pocket just in case there was a delayed transition.

[Blackjack]

Just like the book Blink.

Blink - don't think - just act.

Blackjack

[RunDownHouse]

On a scale of 1-10, with 1 being a mental state similar to Terry Schiavo, and 10 being Forrest Gump, just how socially retarded are you?

[Blackjack]

Hey don't diss Schiavo... it's not her fault she's a vegetable.

Blackjack

[ClaytonN]

Somewhere around a 7, which I think equates to living in Nashville.

[RunDownHouse]

I can't say I've run into many people around town that resort to asking internet forums for advice on the most basic fundamentals of socializing. But then those people don't get out to the honky tonks and NASCAR races much, either, so maybe I just don't notice them.

Honestly, the multitude of OOT posts asking for help with extremely simple human interaction is just amazing. I assume you are one of the younger posters?

[ClaytonN]

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Honestly, the multitude of OOT posts asking for help with extremely simple human interaction is just amazing.

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How it it so amazing? The internet is a haven for the introverted. Don't be ridiculous.

Also, I live in the south. Just messing with you.

Lastly, I have no troubles with social situations in groups. It's the 1 on 1 discussions I struggle with. I contribute to conversations as opposed to, well, leading them I suppose.

[SippinSoma]

Go with the flow and don't forget your sense of humor.

[bd8802]

I start out every conversation by saying "sup bro". From there I wing it.