CardSharpCook
04-03-2005, 03:29 AM
OK, so, for you married people out there who are in committed and loving relationships.... How much honesty is necessary? Let's say you do something that you find really horrible, must you always tell? Is it better not to tell sometimes?
Hypotheticals:
1. I find yourself "accidently" flirting with the cocktail waitress at your local casino. You are a straight laces guy, so you feel horrible about this. Do you tell her about it?
2. You get drunk one night after a bad string of poker, go out with friends, are unable to reject some girl's advances and go so far as making out with her. Sadly, when you wake up in the morning you actually remember doing this, so, because you are a straight laces guy, you are striken with guilt and the desire to confess. Should you?
3. When you were still going out, long before you were married, you once looked through your loving wife's purse. Years later you remember this violation of trust, and, being a straight laces guy, wish to apoligize. Do you even bring it up?
4. You have been, for inexplicable reasons, been fantasing about one of your wife's friends recently. As a straight laces guy, these thoughts disturb you. You want them to stop. You feel like you are being mentally unfaithful to your devoted wife. So, the bright idea hits that you should share these thoughts. Do you?
As a straight laces guy, I'm well aware that all of these hypotheticals must sound rediculous to most of you. However, for those of you who are absolutely devoted to their wives, how do you answer these questions? Also, I realize that hypo #2 is the only one that most would classify as a form of cheating, but I'd appreciate answers to all 4.
CSC
Hypotheticals:
1. I find yourself "accidently" flirting with the cocktail waitress at your local casino. You are a straight laces guy, so you feel horrible about this. Do you tell her about it?
2. You get drunk one night after a bad string of poker, go out with friends, are unable to reject some girl's advances and go so far as making out with her. Sadly, when you wake up in the morning you actually remember doing this, so, because you are a straight laces guy, you are striken with guilt and the desire to confess. Should you?
3. When you were still going out, long before you were married, you once looked through your loving wife's purse. Years later you remember this violation of trust, and, being a straight laces guy, wish to apoligize. Do you even bring it up?
4. You have been, for inexplicable reasons, been fantasing about one of your wife's friends recently. As a straight laces guy, these thoughts disturb you. You want them to stop. You feel like you are being mentally unfaithful to your devoted wife. So, the bright idea hits that you should share these thoughts. Do you?
As a straight laces guy, I'm well aware that all of these hypotheticals must sound rediculous to most of you. However, for those of you who are absolutely devoted to their wives, how do you answer these questions? Also, I realize that hypo #2 is the only one that most would classify as a form of cheating, but I'd appreciate answers to all 4.
CSC