Would you want to die first?.......

[Myrtle]

...........If given the choice, would you rather die before or after your wife/husband/significant other?

A friends wife died suddenly & unexpectedly a few days ago and this thought popped into my mind at the wake. Neither position is necessarily correct, methinks......

It appears to depend upon one's perspective.

[pshreck]

I think its always better for the woman to die first.

[Shajen]

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I think its always better for the woman to die first.

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You can't possibly be married.

The answer for 99% of married people I would guess would be themselves.

[A_C_Slater]

uh.... like 55% of married people get divorced.

[7ontheline]

Absolutely I would rather die before my wife. I'm a selfish guy - the grief would be horrible.

[pshreck]

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I think its always better for the woman to die first.

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You can't possibly be married.

The answer for 99% of married people I would guess would be themselves.

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I am not married, and am talking from an entirely unselfish point of view. I would probably like to die first, but it would be better for my wife if she died first.

[Shajen]

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uh.... like 55% of married people get divorced.

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55% of married people get divorced? Does this mean of marriages less than 5 years old, or what? No one ever seems to be able to come up with a decent stat for that. How long are these people married for?

If you got a link, cool, I'll stand corrected. /images/graemlins/grin.gif

[Shajen]

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I would probably like to die first, but it would be better for my wife if she died first.

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I find your last statement interesting. Why do you think this? Seriously, just curious.

[pshreck]

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I would probably like to die first, but it would be better for my wife if she died first.

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I find your last statement interesting. Why do you think this? Seriously, just curious.

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I pictured all the elderly couples I know, including my grandparents. I think the women would be crushed and would be less likely to find happiness on their own. I think the men could tough it out more, and live a more solitary life, while finding happiness.

[JaBlue]

I would rather die first. I would much rather not have to deal with her death, especially if we're ultra-old and been married a long time. A couple years ago my great grandmother died at 95. My great grandfather is still alive and is 97 now, but it just destroyed him. I don't want to go through that [censored].

[Shajen]

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I would probably like to die first, but it would be better for my wife if she died first.

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I find your last statement interesting. Why do you think this? Seriously, just curious.

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I pictured all the elderly couples I know, including my grandparents. I think the women would be crushed and would be less likely to find happiness on their own. I think the men could tough it out more, and live a more solitary life, while finding happiness.

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Oh, I gotcha. See, I was thinking like right now, at 30 (for me).

I can dig that.

[M2d]

If I die first, I wouldn't have to be crushed by losing my wife. however, I assume that she'd be just as crushed if she had to deal with losing me, and i'm not sure I could put her through that.
if it were soon, I'd have to say I'd rather she die first, but that's only for the next 18 years. we're about to have our first child, and I think I'll be a better parent than she will.

[The Armchair]

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uh.... like 55% of married people get divorced.

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I think the stat is something like 50% of marriages end in divorce, which is very different than what you said (5% difference aside).

DoUCY?

[david050173]

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I would probably like to die first, but it would be better for my wife if she died first.

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I find your last statement interesting. Why do you think this? Seriously, just curious.

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I pictured all the elderly couples I know, including my grandparents. I think the women would be crushed and would be less likely to find happiness on their own. I think the men could tough it out more, and live a more solitary life, while finding happiness.

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It is easier (numerically speaking) for a guy to find a replacment. So many more woman to choose from...

[tbach24]

Think about it this way...would you want to put them through the pain you're suffering?

[Myrtle]

agreed........thinking through this situation is somewhat like.........

......the different levels of thinking at a poker table?

[Sponger15SB]

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uh.... like 55% of married people get divorced.

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55% of married people get divorced? Does this mean of marriages less than 5 years old, or what? No one ever seems to be able to come up with a decent stat for that. How long are these people married for?

If you got a link, cool, I'll stand corrected. /images/graemlins/grin.gif

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http://www.straightdope.com/columns/030124.html

[codewarrior]

I want to die right now, wtf are you people talking about?!! /images/graemlins/confused.gif

Seriously - she has a huge rack and makes more money than I do - I'm hitting that until the end...

(i love you peanut /images/graemlins/tongue.gif)

[jakethebake]

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I think its always better for the woman to die first.

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a man should have a few years of peace and quiet before he goes. /images/graemlins/grin.gif

[CCass]

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I want to die right now, wtf are you people talking about?!! /images/graemlins/confused.gif

Seriously - she has a huge rack and makes more money than I do - I'm hitting that until the end...

(i love you peanut /images/graemlins/tongue.gif)

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This post is useless without pics!!!

[Bluffoon]

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...........If given the choice, would you rather die before or after your wife/husband/significant other?

A friends wife died suddenly & unexpectedly a few days ago and this thought popped into my mind at the wake. Neither position is necessarily correct, methinks......

It appears to depend upon one's perspective.

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Seeing as i'm divorced the "ex" can die first. Now would be just fine.