cnfuzzd
02-10-2005, 11:42 PM
So, back in the days where my social graces were determined by my level of inebriation, i would have been able to handle this situation without a second thought. However, ive recently begun trying to become a little bit "kinder and gentler," so im curious as to some input.
Ive recently moved to kansas city. This is cool. One of the friends i live near is a chick who i used to party with all the time. I mean, out-of-control, we made entire parties pass out, did all the drugs and then found more kind of party. We were always [censored] up, but are both semi-intelligent, so it was nice having someone there to talk to through the haze of booze, mdma, and broken furniture. Eventually, i did the only natural thing and decided to develop feelings for her, but as she was doing drugs to escape from her horrible ex-boyfriend and wasnt ever willing to have sex with me when she wasnt blacked out, nothing ever came of it. (sex with blacked out chicks is only cool if you dont know them /images/graemlins/smile.gif ) However, all the members of our group knew about my "crush" and everyone thought it was inappropriate, or something. To make a long story short, we have remained excellent friends, and my feelings for her are less intense now, though she does have red hair and drinks like a fish when she lets loose. She moved up her, stopped doing so many drugs, and we both have kind of cleaned up a bit.
Of course, to make things exciting, she is 'dating' someone. I withheld judgemnt until i could get an outside opinion, given that not only do i have high standards for ALL my friends significant others, but for her especially there will probably always be a bias. One night last week, when my roommate and some of the group were out and about, we ended up discussing said boyfriend, and the general opionion was douoche-bag. Not unexpectadly, this is how i felt, but it was nice to have it confirmed. The excitement began to build because we (being me, my roommate, girl in questions roommate, and another) decided to have this conversation about 5 feet from the happy couple, and we are pretty sure that they could both hear us, despite the noise and the crowd. Well, the girl had to go home, but the boyfriend continued on to the next bar, and since he kept shooting me some rather unfriendly looks, i did what came naturally. I got him piss ass wasted by making him think he should try to hang with me taking shots. he failed. miserably. The highlight was when he called me and my roommate assholes, and then began yelling to the whole bar about how this group of ladies at the end of the bar were all cunts. So far as we could tell, he didnt know them at all, and vice versa, but they were loudly being proclaimed cunts nonetheless. This pretty much confirmed our opinion of him. Douche bag indeed.
The problem arises in that we are still all hanging out. While there has been a noticable "cooling" of the relationship, he is definitly still treating her like his girlfriend. Whenever we get wasted though, the girl tends to gravitate towards me, not only because we have been friends for ever, but also because she knows im new in town, dont have many friends amongst the current group. We also get along wonderfully. This obviously pisses off the boyfriend. Now, back in the drunken days, i would just take a "your bitch chose me" attitude, and do everything i could to piss him off. But, now, i dont know. i really have no desire to break them up, though i think it is probably a "bad" relationship. I dont even really have any great desire to have a relationship at this point, though i woudl be lying if i said i wouldnt agree to it in a minute. I turn to you, my oot brothers. Thoughts?
Also, people are coming over now to drink, so i must make this short. If ive left anything out, just let me know and i will respond soon.
peace
john nickle
Ive recently moved to kansas city. This is cool. One of the friends i live near is a chick who i used to party with all the time. I mean, out-of-control, we made entire parties pass out, did all the drugs and then found more kind of party. We were always [censored] up, but are both semi-intelligent, so it was nice having someone there to talk to through the haze of booze, mdma, and broken furniture. Eventually, i did the only natural thing and decided to develop feelings for her, but as she was doing drugs to escape from her horrible ex-boyfriend and wasnt ever willing to have sex with me when she wasnt blacked out, nothing ever came of it. (sex with blacked out chicks is only cool if you dont know them /images/graemlins/smile.gif ) However, all the members of our group knew about my "crush" and everyone thought it was inappropriate, or something. To make a long story short, we have remained excellent friends, and my feelings for her are less intense now, though she does have red hair and drinks like a fish when she lets loose. She moved up her, stopped doing so many drugs, and we both have kind of cleaned up a bit.
Of course, to make things exciting, she is 'dating' someone. I withheld judgemnt until i could get an outside opinion, given that not only do i have high standards for ALL my friends significant others, but for her especially there will probably always be a bias. One night last week, when my roommate and some of the group were out and about, we ended up discussing said boyfriend, and the general opionion was douoche-bag. Not unexpectadly, this is how i felt, but it was nice to have it confirmed. The excitement began to build because we (being me, my roommate, girl in questions roommate, and another) decided to have this conversation about 5 feet from the happy couple, and we are pretty sure that they could both hear us, despite the noise and the crowd. Well, the girl had to go home, but the boyfriend continued on to the next bar, and since he kept shooting me some rather unfriendly looks, i did what came naturally. I got him piss ass wasted by making him think he should try to hang with me taking shots. he failed. miserably. The highlight was when he called me and my roommate assholes, and then began yelling to the whole bar about how this group of ladies at the end of the bar were all cunts. So far as we could tell, he didnt know them at all, and vice versa, but they were loudly being proclaimed cunts nonetheless. This pretty much confirmed our opinion of him. Douche bag indeed.
The problem arises in that we are still all hanging out. While there has been a noticable "cooling" of the relationship, he is definitly still treating her like his girlfriend. Whenever we get wasted though, the girl tends to gravitate towards me, not only because we have been friends for ever, but also because she knows im new in town, dont have many friends amongst the current group. We also get along wonderfully. This obviously pisses off the boyfriend. Now, back in the drunken days, i would just take a "your bitch chose me" attitude, and do everything i could to piss him off. But, now, i dont know. i really have no desire to break them up, though i think it is probably a "bad" relationship. I dont even really have any great desire to have a relationship at this point, though i woudl be lying if i said i wouldnt agree to it in a minute. I turn to you, my oot brothers. Thoughts?
Also, people are coming over now to drink, so i must make this short. If ive left anything out, just let me know and i will respond soon.
peace
john nickle