So my teacher called me sexist in front of the whole class..

[billyjex]

during the first day of school. Here's the story:

I am a senior, and this is a class pretty far into my major. Journalism w/ an option in public relations. This class is an elective class in the major and it's with a teacher I've heard about but never had. He's gay. Like, really gay. About 60 years old. Very cocky, he likes to be in control of his class. The chicks love him though, because he knows everything about pop culture and basically all the tabloid stuff chicks are into.

So the class is about 15 people, 3 guys and 12 girls, and he writes four questions on the board to sort of "introduce" us to him. They'll lame questions like what's your pig out food, what would you never be seen buying dead, etc.

So when it comes to me, and it comes to the "what would you never be seen buying dead?", I say tampons. Because I don't think I'd ever want to buy them for a GF. Just trying to be funny.

He says "I can't believe you said that! You are sexist! There is no shame in buying tampons for your girlfriends or daughters. You have a lot to learn!"

He goes on to say how he always bought tampons for his nieces, etc. And then he asks me if I plan on having kids.

I say yeah. He says, well then you better get used to buying tampons. I am somewhat shocked by how up in arms he is about this whole situation (I really just meant it as a joke,) but now since we're this far I say "That's what the wife is for. She can buy them."

He didn't like that comment either.

"You were rude from the first day you were born."

Needless to say, I don't like this guy, and he doesn't like me. Thank god I kept myself from saying anything derogatory towards gays, because trust me, my politically incorrect insensitive self had many things I'd like to say.

School sucks.

[BusterStacks]

You should have said this:

http://www.cheaplubes.com/ProductImages/analeaze/AnalEse.jpg

[gaming_mouse]

Objectively, I'd have to say:

1. Your original tampon joke wasn't very funny, so you shouldn't have made it for that reason.
2. No reason he should have got angry, but once you saw he was a much better response would have been to explain that you were just kidding.

The wife comment is even more un-funny than the original joke -- in fact, it's pretty lame -- and because of it you have now become the bad guy, where originally I would have said he was.

If you plan to stay in the class, you should probably go up to him during office hours and apologize and explain yourself.

gm

[daryn]

why does it have to be a joke?

i would answer both questions the same and be serious.

why wouldn't your wife buy them???

[stabn]

The wife comment is even more un-funny than the original joke -- in fact, it's pretty lame -- and because of it you have now become the bad guy, where originally I would have said he was.

No, he hasn't become the bad guy.

If you plan to stay in the class, you should probably go up to him during office hours and apologize and explain yourself.

No, he doesn't need to do this.

Also, P.S.

The first was topical, funny, and a pretty valid answer to the question.

[jdl22]

I agree with the mouse. What you said was neither funny nor offensive. On another note I've bought tampons before, it's not such a big deal and scores you points (which are obviously redeemable only after waiting a few days).

[stabn]

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On another note I've bought tampons before


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Sure, but never buying them is perfectly valid as well.

[Tyler Durden]

You have every right to give him hell after he got all worked up. F him (not literally, tho he'd like that).

[jdl22]

Indeed. Like I said there wasn't anything wrong with the statements save a lack of humor. Most people probably haven't, even for the willing it doesn't occur that often that you need to since they should be prepared anyway.

[Ed Miller]

I'd suggest that you pick your battles a little more carefully. I don't see why it's worth going to war with your prof when there isn't anything more to your side than, "I can say whatever I want to."

While you CAN say whatever you want to, that doesn't mean you SHOULD say everything you want to.

[Utah]

Yeah. There is no way in hell I am ever buying tampons for my wife or daughters.

[Patrick del Poker Grande]

[ QUOTE ]
why does it have to be a joke?

i would answer both questions the same and be serious.

why wouldn't your wife buy them???

[/ QUOTE ]
Exactly. It works both ways - jokingly and seriously.

[Patrick del Poker Grande]

[ QUOTE ]
Yeah. There is no way in hell I am ever buying tampons for my wife or daughters.

[/ QUOTE ]
You will. I promise.

[VBM]

man. i really need to read titles more carefully.

i went through the whole thing waiting for the good parts, thinking it said, "my teacher called me sexiest in front of the whole class."

[gaming_mouse]

[ QUOTE ]
why does it have to be a joke?

i would answer both questions the same and be serious.

why wouldn't your wife buy them???

[/ QUOTE ]

The OP said it was joke. I didn't say it had to be joke.

[SomethingClever]

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Yeah. There is no way in hell I am ever buying tampons for my wife or daughters.

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You will. I promise.

[/ QUOTE ]

Agreed, and WTF is the big deal?

I'd rather buy tampons than, say, hemmorhoid cream for myself.

[gaming_mouse]

Also, to clarify:

I don't personally find anything offensive about your comments. But your post made it clear that they were intended to provoke, in the sense of you jokingly playing the role of class sexist.

The teacher was lame to get mad about that, but the OP just wasn't being funny to begin with. It honestly just seems like teenage humor.

gm

[IggyWH]

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The wife comment is even more un-funny than the original joke -- in fact, it's pretty lame -- and because of it you have now become the bad guy, where originally I would have said he was.

No, he hasn't become the bad guy.

[/ QUOTE ]

Yes he has... it really doesn't matter what others think about him in the class, because the prof said it, he is now labeled as the bad guy. If it were a 200+ kid class I'd say who cares but since it's such a small class, it's not great to be pointed out as the [censored] right off the bat.

[ QUOTE ]
If you plan to stay in the class, you should probably go up to him during office hours and apologize and explain yourself.

No, he doesn't need to do this.

[/ QUOTE ]

I believe he does. Whether he thought he was right or wrong, his prof thinks he was wrong. His prof already has him labeled as the "[censored]" of the class. You think that won't factor into things when the prof's grading papers?

[jcx]

Your joke wasn't particularly funny, but he had no right to dress you down in front of the class. I wouldn't have put up with someone who doesn't know me from Adam calling me a sexist.

I'd say withdraw from the class, but since you're a journalist specializing in public relations your going to have to put up w/ PC pricks like this for the rest of your life. Should be good training.

[IggyWH]

[ QUOTE ]
Also, to clarify:

I don't personally find anything offensive about your comments. But your post made it clear that they were intended to provoke, in the sense of you jokingly playing the role of class sexist.

The teacher was lame to get mad about that, but the OP just wasn't being funny to begin with. It honestly just seems like teenage humor.

gm

[/ QUOTE ]

I think the key to it all is, if you're going to be a smartass, you have to be prepared to retreat and do damage control if you don't come off the right way.

Was the original comment made to be a joke and the prof took it the wrong way? Yes, but once he started wigging out, the OP just went on and threw gas on the fire with the wife comment.

[stabn]

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Yes he has... it really doesn't matter what others think about him in the class, because the prof said it, he is now labeled as the bad guy. If it were a 200+ kid class I'd say who cares but since it's such a small class, it's not great to be pointed out as the [censored] right off the bat.


[/ QUOTE ]
Any thinking person in the class knows the diffence between the prof calling someone an [censored] and the person being an [censored].

[Ed Miller]

Any thinking person in the class knows the diffence between the prof calling someone an [censored] and the person being an [censored].

There aren't too many thinking people in our wonderful world.

[Utah]

I have been living with my wife for about 10 years and I havent come close to buying them. She has asked me to buy them and I tell her no.

[Sponger15SB]

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Yeah. There is no way in hell I am ever buying tampons for my wife or daughters.

[/ QUOTE ]
You will. I promise.

[/ QUOTE ]

Yeah, seriously. I'd buy tampons for a friend if I told her I was going to the store and she needed me to pick some up for her.

Who gives a [censored].

[IggyWH]

[ QUOTE ]
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Yes he has... it really doesn't matter what others think about him in the class, because the prof said it, he is now labeled as the bad guy. If it were a 200+ kid class I'd say who cares but since it's such a small class, it's not great to be pointed out as the [censored] right off the bat.


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Any thinking person in the class knows the diffence between the prof calling someone an [censored] and the person being an [censored].

[/ QUOTE ]

It has nothing to do with people thinking on their own. He's already the [censored] in the prof's eyes. So would you go an associate with the [censored] of the class?

It's like say your prof throws a fit if someone uses Arial font because he hates it. It's not something he's going to take off points for but it's going to make him pissed to have to read another paper in Arial font. Are you going to type your next paper in Arial?

[Sponger15SB]

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It's not something he's going to take off points for but it's going to make him pissed to have to read another paper in Arial font. Are you going to type your next paper in Arial?

[/ QUOTE ]

Naw, cause you type your papers in Courier New.

Any thinking person knows that.

[gaming_mouse]

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Was the original comment made to be a joke and the prof took it the wrong way? Yes, but once he started wigging out, the OP just went on and threw gas on the fire with the wife comment.

[/ QUOTE ]

Exactly.

I would also add, almost as a general comment, that getting mad at people who get mad at you for stupid reasons is a bad policy.

It just makes you look as lame as they do.

gm

[Tyler Durden]

[ QUOTE ]

He goes on to say how he always bought tampons for his nieces, etc.

[/ QUOTE ]

He bought tampons for his nieces??? That's so weird, why has no one mentioned the weirdness of this?

[daryn]

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Yeah. There is no way in hell I am ever buying tampons for my wife or daughters.

[/ QUOTE ]
You will. I promise.

[/ QUOTE ]

Yeah, seriously. I'd buy tampons for a friend if I told her I was going to the store and she needed me to pick some up for her.

Who gives a [censored].

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yeah man, [censored] it, i agree. tampons are no biggie. it's not like your gay friend is asking you to go buy man-porn.

[stabn]

[ QUOTE ]

There aren't too many thinking people in our wonderful world.


[/ QUOTE ]

Do you care about your image in a class in front of those who aren't? I never did.

[MrFeelNothin]

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Naw, cause you type your papers in Courier New.


[/ QUOTE ]

You have profs that still allow this? Good hand sir.

[IggyWH]

[ QUOTE ]
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It's not something he's going to take off points for but it's going to make him pissed to have to read another paper in Arial font. Are you going to type your next paper in Arial?

[/ QUOTE ]

Naw, cause you type your papers in Courier New.

Any thinking person knows that.

[/ QUOTE ]

I know you meant this as a joke...

but as a college student, I know Arial font is bigger than Courier New in the same font size. You got to know the tricks of the trade /images/graemlins/smile.gif

[stabn]

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Are you going to type your next paper in Arial?


[/ QUOTE ]

Bad analogy. The correct one would be asking "shouldn't you say you are sorry for ever thinking you could type a paper in Arial font".

[jdl22]

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He bought tampons for his nieces??? That's so weird, why has no one mentioned the weirdness of this?

[/ QUOTE ]

Maybe because it isn't weird. If it was his nephews that would be a different story.

[IggyWH]

[ QUOTE ]
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Are you going to type your next paper in Arial?


[/ QUOTE ]

Bad analogy. The correct one would be asking "shouldn't you say you are sorry for ever thinking you could type a paper in Arial font".

[/ QUOTE ]

My analogy was meant to the impression you give off to the professor associating with the [censored] of the class, not to the fact that he should try and make it up to the prof.

[stabn]

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Maybe because it isn't weird. If it was his nephews that would be a different story.


[/ QUOTE ]

He must be banging his nieces. Seriously, what uncle is that close to their nieces?

[Patrick del Poker Grande]

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He bought tampons for his nieces??? That's so weird, why has no one mentioned the weirdness of this?

[/ QUOTE ]

Maybe because it isn't weird. If it was his nephews that would be a different story.

[/ QUOTE ]
No. It's weird. I did catch this before and was going to say something much to the same effect, but I ended up replying to something else instead. Oh well. It's weird. Freaky even. No male should ever buy tampons for a woman except for her husband/equivalent or father.

[stabn]

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My analogy was meant to the impression you give off to the professor associating with the [censored] of the class, not to the fact that he should try and make it up to the prof.


[/ QUOTE ]

Weak, and worse analogy.

[MrFeelNothin]

[ QUOTE ]
but as a college student, I know Arial font is bigger than Courier New in the same font size. You got to know the tricks of the trade

[/ QUOTE ]

this is wrong and its not even close. courier new is the nuts.

[stabn]

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No male should ever buy tampons for a woman except for her husband/equivalent or father.


[/ QUOTE ]

I agree. There's something totally weird going on there. Giving them ten bucks to go buy them is one thing...

[The Dude]

[ QUOTE ]
While you CAN say whatever you want to, that doesn't mean you SHOULD say everything you want to.

[/ QUOTE ]
I hear Abby is retiring soon. Are you planning on coming out with a "Dear Ed" column?

[jdl22]

Similar to what somebody said before it woudln't be that weird if he was going to the store and his sister asked him to pick up the tampons for her daughter. I don't know, it hasn't happened yet, but I could definately see one of my aunts or cousins asking this of me if say I was going to the store to get soda at some family barbecue.

[Shoe]

[ QUOTE ]
I know you meant this as a joke...

but as a college student, I know Arial font is bigger than Courier New in the same font size. You got to know the tricks of the trade


[/ QUOTE ]

Sorry, you are wrong on this one. Courier new definitely takes up more space than arial. I will let others elaborate.

[MrFeelNothin]

beat ya to it!

[Ed Miller]

Do you care about your image in a class in front of those who aren't? I never did.

My one lesson from middle school: The dumber the guy, the more painful the wedgie.

[billyjex]

[ QUOTE ]
Also, to clarify:

I don't personally find anything offensive about your comments. But your post made it clear that they were intended to provoke, in the sense of you jokingly playing the role of class sexist.

The teacher was lame to get mad about that, but the OP just wasn't being funny to begin with. It honestly just seems like teenage humor.

gm

[/ QUOTE ]

I didn't post this to show my great joke. I thought the joke was funny, but I like toilet and immature humor. I laugh at Harold &amp; Kumar.

I don't see why everyone is so quick to say my joke wasn't funny. It's not the point, if the teacher had just said "I didn't find that funny" and moved on this wouldn't be posted.

[stabn]

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My one lesson from middle school: The dumber the guy, the more painful the wedgie.


[/ QUOTE ]

Good point.

[KJS]

Dude, grow up.

KJS

[billyjex]

Also - just to add, I know about half the people in the class. We've been through most of the major together. I don't care if some think I'm sexist, I'm just a sarcastic punk sometimes.

If it matters.. one guy who has had the teacher multiple times asked the teacher "Why do you always have to go off on someone the first day of class?"

So he's known for it.

[Greenthumb]

[ QUOTE ]
I agree with the mouse. What you said was neither funny nor offensive. On another note I've bought tampons before, it's not such a big deal and scores you points (which are obviously redeemable only after waiting a few days).

[/ QUOTE ]

why wait? i am personally not afraid of blood, and they love gettin banged that time of the month.

[gaming_mouse]

[ QUOTE ]
I didn't post this to show my great joke. I thought the joke was funny, but I like toilet and immature humor. I laugh at Harold &amp; Kumar.

[/ QUOTE ]

I enjoy potty humor too. But this is different.... I think because the underlying assumption of the joke is that tampons are somehow embarrassing. But that is such a lame thing to be embarrassed by.

Anyway...

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It's not the point, if the teacher had just said "I didn't find that funny" and moved on this wouldn't be posted.

[/ QUOTE ]

You are right. That would have been the response of a cooler teacher. I might even say the "correct" response. But forget that... that's not what happened. What happened was that this guy got angry in a lame way. The question to you becomes: What is the best way to deal with this guy's anger?

I think that if you just sort of smile and say, "Whoa, sorry. I was just kidding" -- without getting angry -- that makes him look like the jackass. Plus he has no reason to dislike you anymore.

But getting mad back -- lashing out with another lame joke, or provoking comment, or whatever you want to call it -- is not a good response. That makes you look just as bad as he does. Not to mention that fact that he will now dislike you, not a good thing if you plan to stay in the class.

gm

[theBruiser500]

I'm trying to think of some male specific thing and what my reaction would be if a girl said "i don't want to get that baseball" (just assume baseball means the equivelent of tampax for men). I wouldn't care in the least.

[Shajen]

[ QUOTE ]
Also - just to add, I know about half the people in the class. We've been through most of the major together. I don't care if some think I'm sexist, I'm just a sarcastic punk sometimes.

If it matters.. one guy who has had the teacher multiple times asked the teacher "Why do you always have to go off on someone the first day of class?"

So he's known for it.

[/ QUOTE ]

I'd say the prof is trying to come across as sensitive so he can score some hottie coed bootie.

He may be batting for the wrong team, too though.

Seriously, I'd say he's probably trying to assert some level of control over his class. He probably sees a shrink multiple times a week.

In other words, don't sweat it dude. Unless he continues to have it out for you. In which case you should either complain to someone higher or beat his ass.

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[brassnuts]

Answers should have gone as follows.

Favorite pig out food: Beer.

Never get caught buying: Zima.

[Bluffoon]

I have learned that when you stick your foot in your mouth it is best just to shut up. The guy is a dick though. That was a valid response. He just singled you out to slap around and make himself look like a big man.

The only time I refused to buy tampons was one girlfriend who asked me to go out every month. After a while I was like, hey you can count... be prepared.

But once in a while as a favor what's the big deal.

[AEKDBet]

Best not to try to revenge on the tampoon incident, rather have your wits about you and wait for him to f-up in class. Speak out quickly, make the class laugh. If he turns red you win.

[IggyWH]

I'm retarded...

When I did my trial, I used all-caps. With all caps, Arial is bigger but I don't think a prof would be that happy with an all caps report.

[ilovemyZ]

If he's as flaming as you say, I wouldn't worry about it. Flamers are known for loving to get worked up over little to nothing. So I personally wouldn't be too offended by it. Pissed at first? Definitely. But no long-term thing.

If half the class knows you personally, your rep isn't that big of a problem.

The only thing I would be concerned about is just watching where you step the next few classes. It could be a very long semester if you get on his bad side early.